Yesterday, we opened our auction for one private spot: 90 days to choose your offer, build it, price it, and bring it to real buyers.

Business strategy with me. Inner work with Carolina. Private support as you put it into practice.

You don’t need a finished offer. Choosing what to build is where we start.

This is for you if you have skills, experience, and meaningful work to offer, but need help turning it into something people understand and buy.

Then the bidding started.

Then our friends started adding their own work to the prize.

So if you checked in yesterday and thought you knew what was included…

We have some catching up to do.

Open the bidding note ...

Check the latest bids there, then leave yours in its comments.

First, what you’re actually bidding for

The private work is the heart of this.

Over 90 days, we help you:

• Choose and shape your offer in a 90-minute Offer Roadmapping session with me.

• Work through the fear and self-doubt that show up as you act, with three private calls with Carolina.

• Put your offer into words you’d actually use, with your core offer invitation document.

• Build two supporting assets with us, such as invitation emails, an About page, or a pillar post.

• Bring the offer to potential buyers, with private support for conversations, invitations, follow-up, and refinement.

You also have a private thread with us throughout the 90 days for questions, drafts, decisions, and course corrections.

Sometimes the offer needs work. Sometimes the next step is clear, but naming your price or being seen brings things up.

We work on both.

Rachel Connor has shared that she doubled her client base and increased her rates while doing this work.

We won’t promise you a number.

We will help you build something real to sell—and support you as you bring it into the world.

→ SEE THE FULL OFFER

A few moments from the tent

was bidding from a treadmill. Getting his steps in while keeping us on our toes.

appeared at $700, disappeared, then returned at $1,800. Brad understands an entrance.

took the lead at $1,975. followed with $2,100.

Goddess now leads at $2,222.

Along the way, there were familiar faces, first-time bidders, a Fibonacci moment, and people cheering for the people who outbid them.

I love that.

You can want to win and still want good things for the person holding the other paddle.

And then the generosity took another turn.

“We’d like to add something.”

Five people contributed their own work to help whoever wins.

All five contributions unlock if bidding reaches $2,500.

They join a full year in Sacred Growth Club, a custom AI writing voice clone, and our complete micro-training and template library.

Here’s what that means for the winner.

A year of people in your corner

12 months in Sacred Growth Club — $3,996 value

The private work helps you choose, build, and bring your offer to buyers.

Growth Club gives you somewhere to keep refining it, writing about it, and getting support as you grow.

Inside, you get:

• Business Growth Office Hours three times a month with me. Help with your offers, positioning, pricing, and next moves.

• Twice-weekly embodiment sessions with Carolina. Practice staying connected to yourself through the discomfort of visibility, invitations, and growth.

• Twice-weekly Writing Circles. Supported time to write the email, shape the sales page, or finish the invitation.

• Our private community. Honest reflection, shared wins, and support between calls.

It’s where you bring the price you’re hesitating to name or the email you’ve rewritten enough times and would quite like to send.

We aren’t currently accepting direct enrollments. People enter through private work with us or one of our cohorts.

So the auction comes with a little side door. 🎪

Tools to support your writing and next steps

A custom AI writing voice clone trained on your writing and mission

Help drafting in your own voice, with your experience, judgment, and final say.

Our complete microtraining and template library

Practical resources to draw on as you build your offer, make invitations, and respond to what happens.

And four generous additions from our friends

🎁 One year of Slow AI from — approximately $136 value

Sam helps people think clearly about AI and keep their own judgment involved as they use it. Care and perspective in a conversation that can get very loud, very quickly.

🎁 One year of Robots Ate My Homework from — £80 value

Including the entire RobotsOS library: creative thinking, practical AI systems, skills, agents, and playbooks you can bring into your work.

🎁 One year of WriteStack basic paid access from its creator, — $299.88 value

Support for a steadier Substack publishing rhythm, including scheduling your Notes so showing up doesn’t require being online all day.

🎁 ’ entire product stack — $884+ in listed value

Apparently Finn arrived with a moving truck.

His contribution includes:

• StackContacts App, Business Edition — $499

• StackContacts Encore — $99

• Finn Tropy Substack Pro Studio — $79

• CreativeTech Substack Notes for Claude Bundle — $79

• StackContacts Press — $49

• Audience Strategy Coach — $29+

• Substack Control Center — $25

• StackContacts Connect — $20

• Pangram AI Detection for Substack — $5+

• Seven additional free or pay-what-you-want resources

🦩 LATE ADDITION: Pinkie from has added The Branding Flock.

You’re building an offer people can understand. Pinkie helps you make the visuals recognizably yours, too.

The Branding Flock is her 12-month program for solopreneurs building a consistent visual brand with AI, with tools, live sessions, and reusable AI skills.

So every cover, post, and graphic starts from a system that looks like you, instead of another round of “why does this look nothing like my brand?”

It joins the winner’s bonus collection if bidding reaches $2,500.

Apparently the tent now has flamingos. 🦩🎪

Sam, Mia, Orel, Finn, Pinkie thank you.

These are things you’ve spent your time and care building. Seeing you offer them to support someone else’s next chapter means a lot.

What unlocks at $2,500?

Everything listed above goes to the eventual winner if bidding reaches $2,500.

That’s more than $5,255 in listed value, plus Mia’s £80 annual membership, on top of the private work.

Before counting the custom AI writing voice clone.

Before counting our microtraining and template library.

The tools and memberships give us more to work with. The point is what we help you do with them.

Choose your offer. Build it. Price it. Bring it to real buyers.

How the money works

Only the winner pays their winning bid. If you don’t win, you don’t owe your bid amount.

If you win, you’re committing to purchase the package at your winning bid—so bid an amount you’re happy to pay.

Every bidder can also claim these three gifts for a separate $1.49:

• A full year inside Sacred Business Network.

• Clarity Compass.

• All three sessions of Carolina’s upcoming Confidence Workshop.

That’s $255 in value, available even if you don’t win. The Network year is for new members. We’ll send bidders the claim link.

Your next move

If you’ve been watching and thinking, “I could actually see myself doing this…”, here’s your invitation.

You bring your experience, your ideas, and your willingness to put something real into the world.

We bring practical help with the business and inner support as you choose, build, and ask for the sale.

And apparently, our friends bring a truckload of extras.

Bid Now ...

A $2,500 bid would exceed that bid and unlock the whole package for the eventual winner. Check the Note for the latest bids before placing yours.

All bids go in that Note’s comments. Questions, cheering, and a little friendly mischief belong there too.

Carolina, Marcus, and I will see you under the tent.

Bring your paddle. Gary may bring the treadmill.

With Love,

❤️⚡️ Phil (& Carolina)

🚨 Bidding closes TODAY, Thursday, October 15, at 2 p.m. Eastern.

We’re auctioning ONE private spot with Carolina and me.

90 days to choose your offer, build it, price it, and bring it to real buyers with business strategy, inner work, and private support as you move.

You don’t need a finished offer. Choosing what to build is where we start.

This is for you if you have skills, experience, and meaningful work to offer—but need help turning it into something people understand and buy.

Check the bidding Note for the latest bids.

👉 OPEN THE BIDDING NOTE →

All bids go in that Note’s comments. This page explains what you’re bidding for.

Click Here to Bid

HERE’S WHAT WE’RE HERE TO DO.

You’ve got magic.

A body of work, a way of seeing, or a way of helping people that is distinctly yours.

We’re going to help you put it into something people can buy.

🏆 We’re here to help you get PAID for your magic. And THANKED for it.

Not just “clarity.” Not a beautiful plan that stays in a drawer.

PAID.

We won’t promise you a number.

What we will promise is that you’ll have a clear, refined offer to sell, a price you can stand behind, an invitation in your own words, and private support as you bring it to potential buyers.

90 days to build it and bring it into the world.

And if the bidding reaches the next unlock, you’ll have support as your offer takes root beyond those 90 days.

A CLEAR OFFER. AND SUPPORT TO ACTUALLY SELL IT.

Sometimes the offer needs work.

Sometimes you know the next move, but choosing, pricing, or being seen brings up resistance.

We work on both.

I will help you shape the offer, positioning, and business model.

Carolina helps you work through the fear, self-doubt, and inner friction that show up as you bring it into the world.

So when it’s time to name your price, send the invitation, or follow up with someone interested, you have support for both the practical decision and what it brings up in you.

WE BUILD IT WITH YOU.

Some of the work we do for you. All of it we do with you.

That’s how we make sure what emerges is effective—and recognizably yours.

You work with Phil and Carolina separately, with each focused on their part of helping you move.

HERE’S HOW.

👉 Choose the offer you’re actually going to build.
One 90-minute Offer Roadmapping session with Phil to decide who it’s for, what it helps them achieve, and how it fits your business and life.

👉 Work through what’s been stopping you from putting it out there.
Three private calls with Carolina to work with the fear, self-doubt, and resistance that show up around choosing, visibility, and selling.

👉 Get your magic written back to you in words you’d actually use.
Your core offer invitation document: what you help with, who it’s for, what’s included, and what it costs.

👉 Build two supporting assets WITH us.
An About page, invitation emails, a pillar post, or your choice from the available asset list built around your work and your voice.

👉 Bring the offer to real people.
Within your private support, we’ll help you identify potential buyers, start conversations, make invitations, and follow up. Then we’ll use the response to refine what isn’t landing.

👉 Have somewhere to bring the decisions as you go.
A private thread with us throughout the 90 days for questions, drafts, feedback, and course corrections as you put the offer into action.

Different starting points. Different results.

The point is to get your work into contact with real buyers.

Then comes the part this is actually about.

Someone pays you real money for your magic.

And comes back to tell you what it did for them.

Selling does not have to turn you into someone you are not.

At its best, it is a clear invitation:

“This is what I can help with, this is what it costs, and this is what might become possible.”

🎁 IF THE WINNING BID REACHES $2,500…

The winner also receives ALL of this:

✨ 12 months in Sacred Growth Club — $3,996 value
Business Growth Office Hours three times a month with Phil, twice-weekly embodiment sessions with Carolina, twice-weekly Writing Circles, and our private community. A year of support as your offer takes root.

✨ A custom AI writing voice clone trained on your writing and mission
Support for drafting in your own voice, with your judgment and final say.

✨ Our complete microtraining and template library
Practical resources to help you take the next step as you build, invite, and sell.

And our friends have added their own goodies to the prize:

🎁 One year of Slow AI from Dr Sam Illingworth — approximately $136 value
A thoughtful approach to using AI while keeping your own judgment, care, and perspective involved.

🎁 One year of Robots Ate My Homework from Mia Kiraki — £80 value
Including the entire RobotsOS library: creative thinking, practical AI systems, skills, agents, and playbooks to bring into your work.

🎁 One year of WriteStack basic paid access from its creator, Orel — $299.88 value
Support for a steadier Substack publishing rhythm, including scheduling your Notes so showing up doesn’t require being online all day.

🎁 Finn Tropy’s entire product stack — $884+ in listed value
StackContacts App, Business Edition; StackContacts Encore; Finn Tropy Substack Pro Studio; CreativeTech Substack Notes for Claude Bundle; StackContacts Press; Audience Strategy Coach; Substack Control Center; StackContacts Connect; Pangram AI Detection for Substack; and seven additional free or pay-what-you-want resources.

Apparently Finn arrived with a moving truck. 🎪

That’s more than $5,255 in listed value, plus Mia’s £80 membership—on top of your 90 days of private work.

And that’s before counting the custom AI writing voice clone or our microtraining and template library.

The tools give us more to work with. The point is what we help you do with them:

Choose your offer. Build it. Price it. Bring it to real buyers.

If bidding reaches $2,500, the eventual winner receives everything above.

HOW THE AUCTION WORKS

One private spot. No reserve.

Bidding opened at $1. Check the Note for the current high bid before placing yours.

You can bid as many times as you want before bidding closes.

Bidding closes Thursday, October 15, at 2 p.m. Eastern.

All bids belong in the comments of the bidding Note.

HOW THE MONEY WORKS

Only the winner pays their winning bid.

If you don’t win, you don’t owe your bid amount.

If you win, you’re committing to purchase the package at your winning bid—so bid an amount you’re happy to pay.

Every bidder can also claim these three gifts for a separate $1.49:

• A full year inside Sacred Business Network.

• Clarity Compass.

• All three sessions of Carolina’s upcoming Confidence Workshop.

That’s $255 in value, available to every bidder, even if you don’t win.

The Network year is for new members. We’ll send bidders the link to claim the gifts.

READY TO BID?

👉 OPEN THE BIDDING NOTE →

Check the latest bid, then leave yours in the Note’s comments.

Bids, questions, cheering, and a little friendly mischief are all welcome there. 🎪

🚨 Bidding closes TODAY, Thursday, October 15, at 2 p.m. Eastern.

Everything Is Connected,
Phil and Carolina ❤️⚡️

PS If you see in the bidding Note or your DMs, he’s with us and helping with the auction. 🎪

Click here to bid

One private spot. 90 days with Carolina and I to choose your offer, build it, price it, and bring it to real buyers.

But there’s a question worth answering before bidding opens:

“What if I’m not even sure what I want to offer?”

Or you have five ideas and don’t know which one to choose.

Or you’ve been thinking about the same idea for three years and wonder whether that means something.

You don’t need to arrive with a finished offer. Choosing what to build is where we start.

You bring your skills, experience, and willingness to act. We help you turn those into a clear decision.

The roadmap session gives us a direction: who you’ll help, what they’ll be buying, and which offer we’ll build together.

And choosing one idea now doesn’t mean abandoning the others. It means giving one of them a real chance.

Last year’s auction winner, left this comment on our post:

“I did the S-B auction and worked with Phil and Carolina about a year ago. It was a wonderful experience that moved my business forward significantly. I got clarity on my offer, wonderful guidance about delivery, and a huge jumpstart on my Substack. A big boost of confidence in creating and putting it out there.”

He also described what shifted through his work with Carolina:

“So it was an upgrade in my own being, and in the process by which I am sharing my life’s work.”

Then he added:

“Worthwhile! p.s. They didn’t ask me to write this.”

That’s what we want for the person who wins tomorrow’s auction: a clear offer, a way to reach people, and the confidence to put your work in front of them.

Now, here’s what everyone who bids gets, not just the winner:

• A full year inside the Sacred Business Network (new members only)

• The Clarity Compass

• All three sessions of Carolina’s upcoming Confidence Workshop

That’s over $255 in value, even if you don’t win the private spot.

There’s one detail: you’ll need to pay $1.49 to claim those three gifts. We’ll send bidders the payment link.

Place a bid of at least $1, and you can claim all three gifts for just $1.49, whether you win or not. We’ll send bidders the payment link.

Only the winner pays their winning bid. Everyone else can simply claim the gifts for $1.49

So even if you don’t win the private spot, you still walk away with over $255 in value for a dollar.

Watch for tomorrow’s auction post at noon Eastern. That’s where you’ll bid.

Have a question before it starts? Leave it below. and our team will help you get ready.

One private spot. $1 minimum bid. Highest bid wins. No reserve.

Everything Is Connected,
Phil and Carolina ❤️⚡️

10/14/26 Update #3 The Auction is Live:

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10/ 13/26 Update #2: The auction opens tomorrow, Wednesday, October 14, at noon Eastern.

And everyone who bids at least $1 can claim three gifts for just $1, whether they win or not: a full year inside the Sacred Business Network (new members only), the Clarity Compass, and all three sessions of Carolina’s upcoming Confidence Workshop.

👉 Read today’s post for how bidding works and how to claim your gifts.

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10/12/26 Update #1: Well… that was fast. 🎪

Our Auction Insider Circle has already hit Substack’s 50-person group limit.

Still interested? Drop your questions or a simple “I’m in” in the comments below. and our team will make sure you have what you need before Wednesday’s auction opens.

The insider’s group is full. The auction is open to everyone.

Keep an eye out for the bidding post Wednesday, October 14, at noon Eastern. One private spot. $1 minimum bid. No reserve. ❤️⚡️

One person will win 90 days of private work with both of us to build a clear offer and bring it to real buyers.

And as the bidding climbs, we’ll be adding more value, including support that keeps us in your corner well beyond those first 90 days.

$1 minimum bid. Highest bid wins. No reserve.

Here’s how to be ready:

Watch for Wednesday’s auction post here on Substack dropping at NOON EASTERN. That’s where you’ll bid.

Before then, we’re gathering interested bidders in a free pre-auction group, where we’ll share tips to help you prepare and give yourself the best chance of winning.

If you’ve already commented on last week’s post expressing interest, keep an eye on your Substack chats for your invitation.

Want in? Leave a comment below saying you’re interested, and we’ll invite you too.

And if you see or hear from Marcus Anderson, he’s with us. 😊 He’s part of our team and will be helping with auction admin, answering questions, and making sure everyone gets what they need.

One person wins the private spot. Everybody who bids gets something.

More on that tomorrow. 😉

This is the same work that helped double both her prices and her client numbers in just 3 months, and land his first $1,500 client, as well as build up his incredible Sober Creative Podcast where he’s landed legendary guests like Hunter Biden.

If you’ve got meaningful work you’re ready to bring into the world, this could be your next move.

Comment below to join us before the auction. Then watch for Wednesday’s bidding post.

Wednesday. Noon Eastern. One private spot.

Everything Is Connected,
Phil and Carolina ❤️⚡️

10/14/26 Update #3: The Auction is Live:

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10/13/26 Update #2: The auction opens tomorrow, Wednesday, October 14, at noon Eastern.

And everyone who bids at least $1 can claim three gifts for just $1, whether they win or not: a full year inside the Sacred Business Network (new members only), the Clarity Compass, and all three sessions of Carolina’s upcoming Confidence Workshop.

👉 Read today’s post for how bidding works and how to claim your gifts.

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10/12/26 Update #1: You said yes. It’s happening. 🎪

The auction is officially on: Wednesday, October 14, at 12 noon Eastern.

One private spot. $1 minimum bid. Highest bid wins. No reserve.

And well… our Auction Insider Circle has already hit its 50-person limit. But everyone can bid, and and our team will help you get ready.

👉 Head to our official announcement, “What would you bid to have us in your corner?” for the details—and drop your questions in the comments there.

One person wins the private spot. Everybody who bids gets something. More on that tomorrow. ❤️⚡️

Read the Announcement

Carolina and I have an idea.

What if we opened up ONE private spot to help someone turn their skills and experience into a clear offer, build the page and emails WITH them, and get it in front of people ready to pay?

And what if, instead of setting a fixed price, we offered that spot auction style…

With a $1 minimum bid?

Would you be interested?

Before you answer, let me tell you what we have in mind.

You might already have years of experience helping people. You might be a therapist, a practitioner, a coach, or someone whose work has evolved beyond what your current job allows you to do.

There’s something you want to offer.

But each time you try to make it real, you run into decisions that are hard to make on your own.

Which part of your work should you lead with? What would someone actually be buying? How much should you charge?

Then there’s explaining it. Writing the offer and invitation. Sending the email. Having the conversation where you name the price and wait for an answer.

That’s where we’d work with you.

Your offer, built WITH you

For 90 days, Carolina and I would help you take the idea you keep putting off and turn it into something people can understand, buy, and benefit from.

We’d start by choosing a clear focus: who the offer is for, what they want help with, and what you can help them accomplish.

From there, we’d help you explain it in one sentence and set a price that makes sense for the work and the life you want to build.

Then we’d build the page and the emails WITH you.

We’d also help you grow your Substack and use your writing to get that offer in front of more of the right people, so readers have a clear path from “I love your work” to “How can I work with you?”

You’d have something you could send to a real person when they ask, “How can I work with you?”

And we’d stay involved as you started making invitations, hearing questions and feedback, and refining the offer based on what people actually respond to.

Because getting the offer written is one step. Bringing yourself to send it can bring up a whole other set of questions.

Support for the business and the person building it

You’d have private calls with each of us, doing what each of us is best at.

I’d help you make the business decisions and turn them into a clear offer and real invitations. Carolina would help you work with what comes up around being seen, trusting yourself, and receiving money for your work.

Plus a private thread where you could drop a question any day during those 90 days and get support as you go.

When someone asks about your price, you’d have somewhere to bring that conversation. If you get a response you don’t know how to interpret, we could look at it together.

You’d have help taking the next step while the work was actually happening.

Everything is connected. The offer needs a clear structure, and you need support bringing it into the world.

This would work best for someone who already has skills and experience, but needs help turning what they know into a clear offer.

You can come with doubts. You do need to be willing to build, make invitations, and work with what you learn.

So… would you bid?

We’re considering opening ONE SPOT for this private, 90-day build.

Auction style. $1 minimum bid.

The winning bid would determine the price. The $1 would be where bidding starts.

Right now, we’d love to know whether this is something you’d want.

If you’d like us in your corner while you build your offer and bring it to people who could benefit, would YOU bid at least $1?

Hit reply or leave a comment with:

1️⃣ Yes, I’d bid.

2️⃣ I’m interested, but I need more information.

3️⃣ No, I’m good.

Everything Is Connected,
Phil and Carolina ❤️⚡️

Her impressive career had grown into a successful business helping people with something she truly believes in and loves.

Her breakthrough frequency, the result of her assessment, was Love.

She came to the call curious. She was already being guided by her heart and creating something new, something she called her legacy work. Work she wants to live beyond her life here.

She was clear about how she was helping others, but something was missing.

As she said, “It feels different to me, but I can’t quite name it yet.”

I told her that sometimes, when the next phase of a business is calling for more love, it’s an invitation to do more of what you love.

But for her, as for many of our clients, maybe this next phase was inviting her to love herself more.

Her shoulders dropped. She sat back in her chair and said, “Wow. That’s totally true. I never really thought of that.”

What does that mean in practical terms?

The first invitation love makes, very often, is to slow down.

These women are very successful. They have already built something meaningful. But often, if you are like me and like them, success came through an unhealthy relationship with masculine energy:

Hustle more. Do more. Always be busy. Take care of everyone.

And you are always at the end of the list.

It’s a hard change. I am in it, and I witness many women on the same path.

For me, slowing down means enjoying a stretch of time without feeling guilty. It means creating pockets of space to wonder, to just observe. My business keeps inviting me back to that.

Slowing down requires a different relationship with life altogether.

Deep inside, these women know they can be successful without the rush. They just don’t know how.

There is a constant feeling that they could be doing more, that they should be ahead. When they have space, it needs to be filled with something.

Pausing feels like guilt.

A client once told me her big shift was healing her relationship with masculine energy and feeling for herself that she can do magic, that her business can be built from that energy.

This wasn’t just an insight. She took action from that space. She finally started creating space for herself while creating meaningful impact in the world.

Maybe you are like me too, and like many of our clients. You found success while operating in unhealthy masculine energy, and now your feminine is ready to rise.

Not only in your rituals and personal life, but in business too.

But it won’t rise if we don’t heal our relationship with the masculine.

For some women, this almost comes with a rejection of the masculine. But in reality, these two energies need each other. They depend on each other to give birth to something real and meaningful.

If your business is inviting you to experience more love, don’t forget to add yourself to that list.

Maybe it’s allowing what you do to love you more.

With more and more love,
Carolina

You love your work. But where are you on the list of people it takes care of?

If you’ve built something meaningful but still feel guilty slowing down, that’s worth paying attention to.

The free Harmony Map helps you find your breakthrough frequency and see where to focus next—so the business you’re building can support you, too.

Take the Harmony Map →

Take the Harmony Map

Carolina and I were all in on the business we were building. The money wasn’t coming in yet. And I was about to spend $12,000 on help crafting our story and message.

On paper, it looked scary as hell. My nervous system agreed. We made the investment because we needed a clearer way to speak about the work we were building, even though I couldn’t put a date on when it would pay for itself.

I faced a smaller version of that decision earlier this year, during a summer lull. We felt we were putting real effort into the business and the results weren’t matching it. I had to admit something uncomfortable: I was again too close to what we’d built to see what needed to change.

I needed someone to hold up a mirror.

That support cost $2,000. Before saying yes, I checked that we could cover it from our existing business income even if the work brought in nothing new. It was a stretch, but it wasn’t a bet on an immediate return.

The work has since led to revenue I can trace to that decision, roughly ten times what I paid. More importantly, it helped us build a clearer vision for moving forward. I couldn’t have counted on either outcome when I invested.

I’m glad I said yes. I also know how easily that story could become bad advice.

Someone could read it and conclude that the answer is to trust your gut and make the investment. I don’t believe that. I’ve heard from too many thoughtful people who put money into coaching or business support and didn’t receive what they needed. Sometimes the offer was weak. Sometimes the fit was wrong. Sometimes the work demanded more than they could reasonably give.

Financial risk doesn’t disappear because something feels aligned.

So how do you decide when your heart wants to move and your mind is making a convincing case to wait?

I start by listening to what each is actually saying.

In my body, fear often feels like butterflies in my stomach. There’s energy there, and an awareness of the risk. When something feels like a true no, I experience more of a contraction around my heart space. A yes can feel like a leaning forward, even with the butterflies still going.

That’s how I experience it. It isn’t a universal test, and a feeling alone can’t tell me whether an offer is good or whether I can afford it.

I also look at the person and the support. Have I spent enough time with their work to know how they think? Can they speak honestly about what they’ve helped people achieve and where the limits are? Do I trust them to stay engaged when the plan meets reality?

Then I look back at myself. If I receive the support they’re offering, can I follow through on my part? Is this work I still want when it asks something difficult of me?

That question is about my own commitment. It doesn’t make the person offering support less responsible for delivering what they promised.

Finally, I ask the least romantic question of all:

What happens if the return takes longer than I hope?

With that recent $2,000 investment, I had an answer. I could cover the cost from the business as it stood. I didn’t need the new work to pay for itself right away. Without that answer, the same excitement in my body might have led me to a different decision.

The numbers help me see what I can responsibly risk. My heart helps me see whether the direction is worth pursuing. And my history with myself tells me whether I’m likely to do the work once I say yes.

I need all three.

There’s a point where more analysis stops giving me new information. I’ve looked closely at the person. I understand what the support includes and what it cannot promise. I know what happens if the return takes longer than I want. And I still feel that leaning forward.

At that point, waiting for certainty won’t make the decision safer. The evidence I want can only come from movement. Sometimes that means investing in support. Sometimes it means running the next test myself. Either way, I can’t demand proof of a result before I’m willing to take the step that could create it.

That doesn’t mean every stretch is a yes. A real financial constraint deserves to be honored. So does a true no in your heart.

But if you can carry the risk, you trust the support, and you know you’ll bring your full commitment to the work, life may be asking you to move before it shows you the result.

LFG.

And if you’re ready to move but can’t yet see where your effort belongs, start with the free Harmony Map Assessment. In about eight minutes, it will help you see the pattern creating friction in your business and where to focus next. Then you have something concrete to act on.

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With Love,

Phil

It sounds simple until you try to ask it in the middle of a difficult week.

Recently, Carolina and I spoke with someone who had made real progress in her business. Then life became demanding. She needed to rest. By the time she had room to think about the business again, she felt behind.

She could see everything she hadn’t finished. It was harder for her to see what she had done: showing up more visibly, making new connections, changing how she priced her work, and starting to build something she believed in.

During our conversation, she asked a brave question:

Did she still want to grow this business, or had she been holding on to an idea that no longer fit her life?

That question deserved a answer. Stepping away was a valid choice. So was continuing at a pace her life could hold.

What caught my attention was the story beginning to form around the pause: I’ve lost the momentum. Maybe there’s no point picking this up again.

I know that story. I’ve told versions of it myself.

And this is where the teaching met the practical work in front of us.

Choosing a new energy doesn’t mean declaring the hard season an illusion. The demands on her time were real. Her need for rest was real. So was the progress she had made.

The choice was whether the pause had to mean abandonment.

Carolina said something during that conversation that I really resonate with:

That might mean giving the business an extra thirty minutes this week instead of demanding a heroic comeback. Looking at the unfinished invitation and writing one more sentence. Asking for help while you still feel uncertain. Returning to a conversation you care about.

Small actions like these do more than complete a task. They let you experience yourself as someone who can return.

After sitting with it, this person chose to keep going. The next chapter wasn’t a promise to push harder. As Carolina put it afterward, it could be a steady, light, delicious push.

I love that distinction.

If you’ve been building meaningful work, take a moment to look at the energy you’re living in around it. You may find that the business needs to change. You may find that you need rest. You may also find that the work still matters to you, and one small action would help you meet it again.

You get to choose from where you are today.

This is part of what we practice in Your First Yes: choosing one direction, shaping a clear offer, making real invitations, and having support as you move through the resistance that comes with doing it. The current group is full, but if that’s the kind of support you want for your next chapter, join the next-cohort waitlist here.

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With love,
Phil

Yes, you want money too. But not at the cost of your values, your authenticity, or the life you’re trying to create.

You are building a heart-led business now, and the rules are different here.

You don’t have time to waste, and you are done with the rat race you’ve been told you should keep running if you want to be successful.

If you see yourself in this brief description, then you have dropped into your heart. You have already awakened to something greater, and you are rebuilding your life and your business from an entirely different place than the chapter that came before.

For that, I want to celebrate you.

It takes courage… and courage is what it looks like when you start taking action from your heart.

As joyful as this process is, at least in my experience, it comes with its challenges. And one of the biggest is learning to reposition the mind in this new way of being.

We, or at least I, grew up letting the mind lead the way.

Being busy felt like being productive, and being productive gave me a sense of self. The mind set the goals, based on what I believed was possible. It made the plans, figured out how to get there, kept up with the to-do list. And when something wasn’t working, it was also the harsh judge telling me I should be better, do more.

My mind was wearing many hats at once, and I just thought that was the way things should be.

Having the mind lead the way got me somewhere. It probably got you somewhere too. But the old way no longer works, the mind and the heart can’t wear the same hat.

When the heart starts playing, information gets processed differently.

It’s the beginning of a phase where we move from surviving to truly creating. The new destination is known to your heart but completely unknown to the mind, so it can’t guide you there. But it can definitely help you get there.

The mind didn’t lose its job. It changed jobs.

It no longer decides where you’re going. Its new role is to help your heart take you there.

In the heart space, we awaken to something greater, something far more beautiful than anything we’ve experienced until now. And from the mind’s perspective, it can sound crazy, unreasonable… it might even judge it as delusional.

It will try to convince you that the old way was better, that it knows best.

For quite some time, the mind keeps operating the way it always has. Now the heart is claiming its place, and we need to be the ones to tell the mind it can chill, that everyone gets to play here.

We grew our team: the wisdom in our gut is participating more, the heart is leading, and the mind should be supporting the process, bringing ease, so we can enjoy the present moment.

On the outside, it can look simple. You’re simplifying the business. Choosing one clear offer. Changing your pricing. Speaking more honestly about what you do.

But inside!?

Oh jeez… it’s like a storm. Energetically, everything is changing. Your gut is coming online more than ever. A power that’s been suppressed for decades is trying to emerge, and it feels like a pressure cooker sometimes. And there’s a softness and a sharpness, guided by your heart — you simply can’t accept things the way you once did.

Yes… this is a lot.

In transitions like this, we need to breeeeeeath… more intentionally than ever. It helps the transformation integrate. It helps it settle.

The next phase of your business is being built from the heart. You are safe. All is well. Not only will you survive, you will thrive. YES! Thrive!!!!!!!

I know it doesn’t sound like good business advice, but it is, and it’s a powerful suggestion… chill more!

I am not saying to go to the beach, drink mojitos and expect a sale. (But in the right order, you can do that too)

I am saying enjoy building your foundation, expect good things, do more of what you love, spend time feeling the joy of what you’re building, talk to more people about what you’re doing, have more conversations, go to events, do things you have never done before.

Be more human… less of a robot checking things off a to-do list.

And also, take a Monday afternoon off, go for a massage, celebrate yourself, take yourself to dinner to celebrate your high ticket sale.

You are already an action taker. This isn’t permission to disappear and wait for things to happen.

It’s permission to stop mistaking pressure for progress.

Aligned action beats frantic action.

In this new phase, less is indeed more. The heart is simple. It’s clear, and it doesn’t need to explain itself.

Your business is asking you to stop gripping so hard for what you think you have to make happen. The heart holds a magnetism that the mind simply doesn’t have. Things will come your way — with your active participation, yes — but you won’t see them if you stay constantly busy.

If your mind is always thinking about ten years from now, worried, or ten years ago, wishing you had started this earlier, you can’t listen to what’s presenting itself to you right now. And you lose your ability to be here now — which is the whole reason you dropped into your heart in the first place.

The energy is trying to rise. Up from your belly, crossing the walls of your solar plexus, reaching to connect with your heart. Every time the mind grips, it closes that gate. Every time you soften, it opens.

So here is what I want you to remember, because I think you already know it:

You already said yes. Your heart is there, fully open, waiting for your mind to give it permission to lead.

You know the life you want to experience more of. You know the shape of the business that will support it — the family time, the slow mornings, the room to breathe, the meaning. It’s already in you. You’re not starting from nothing, and you’re not lost.

You’re simply still running a heart-led business on the old engine.

This, too, is a process, and your heart already knows the way. There are probably many things you can let go of, and many others you can simply slow down. What you want is available now. The more you chill in the process, the faster it comes.

With Love,

Carolina

If this feels familiar if you know the business you want, but keep slipping back into overthinking, overworking, or trying to force the next move, the Harmony Map can show you where the friction actually is.

It’s a free, eight-minute assessment that reveals your Breakthrough Frequency: the one area across you, your business, and the Divine that is asking for attention now. Not because something is wrong with you. Because this is where your next move becomes clearer.

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Here is the mildly embarrassing reason: we had slipped below the threshold for our bestseller badge, and we wanted it back.

I like the badge. It gives us early access to certain features, and it offers a small signal of trust. People see it and know that others value what we create here.

Still, I think creators are asking that badge to mean far more than it does.

You become a Substack bestseller when you reach 100 paid subscribers.

That is worth celebrating. I have watched several friends earn theirs recently, and I was genuinely happy for them. It feels exciting because it represents 100 people choosing to support your work.

It does not mean you have built a sustainable business.

As of September 2026, our paid Substack brings in roughly $10,000 a year.

Some members joined at our current annual price of $149. Others came through early discounts or birthday promotions, and some were originally comped because they belonged to our other memberships before we ever planned to build a paid publication.

We are in the expansion phase of a multiple six-figure business. Substack subscriptions make up a tiny fraction of that revenue.

Substack helps people discover us, and our essays build trust. The paid publication gives us a beautiful place to share private podcasts and spend more time with the people who want to go deeper.

I value all of that.

But here is something you might not expect: of all the people we serve, our paid Substack subscribers are often the least engaged. Another publication may have a very different experience. For us, paying for more content has not created the same depth of connection as doing real work together.

If we had asked paid subscriptions to sustain the business, we would be in trouble. The problem begins when you ask an audience-building platform to carry the full weight of your business model.

How many paid Substack subscribers does it take to replace a salary?

Let us say you charge $15 a month and want to replace a $5,000 monthly salary.

You need 334 paid subscribers to gross $5,000 a month. That is before fees, taxes, cancellations, and the steady work of replacing people who leave.

Now assume a healthy 3% of your free subscribers eventually convert to paid. You would need more than 11,000 free subscribers to reach 334 paid.

At 0.5%, you would need 66,800.

Your free-to-paid conversion rate is the percentage of free subscribers who eventually become paying subscribers. It is not a universal constant. Your niche, price, existing authority, reader loyalty, and what you offer paid members can all change it over time.

That lower estimate may sound grim. recently wrote an excellent email called I Think We’re Lying About What It Takes. She shared that, without a proven benchmark of her own, she now plans around a 0.5% conversion rate because the old averages are failing so many smart people.

I appreciated her honesty.

I never want to tell someone that they cannot be the exception. I do want them to understand the conditions required for the plan to work.

Those conditions are getting harder. Most of us already have more subscriptions than we want. Information has never been cheaper, especially now that AI can generate another article, course, or guide in seconds.

People are hungry for connection that leads somewhere. They want help making a decision and putting it into motion.

The same problem appears with small courses.

Suppose you have 1,000 subscribers and launch a $297 course. At 3%, 30 people buy and you make $8,910.

That is a real win. Enjoy it.

Then ask the next question: can you do it again?

Your first launch may have benefited from a year of pent-up demand. Relaunching the same course to largely the same people rarely produces another 30 buyers. The audience has already seen it, some bought, and others decided it was not for them.

To earn $5,000 every month from that course, you need about 17 new sales each month. At a 3% conversion rate, that means reaching roughly 567 qualified prospects every month. At 0.5%, it is closer to 3,400.

A successful launch proves people will buy. A sustainable business proves you can keep reaching enough new buyers.

Why successful Substack creators usually have a hidden runway

Sam Illingworth’s growth with Slow AI has been masterful.

In roughly a year, he grew to more than 16,000 subscribers and nearly 300 paid members. I was deeply impressed by what he created.

It also was not his first rodeo.

Before Slow AI, Sam had spent a decade doing public engagement. He had built a successful blog, hosted a podcast, developed audiences on other platforms, and become a university professor who speaks to tens of thousands of people a year. He is also an award-winning playwright and actor.

What looked like a meteoric rise carried 15 to 20 years of skill underneath it.

Understanding that runway makes Sam’s accomplishment far more useful.

There is another kind of success story you will see on Substack: people with thousands of paid subscribers who teach Substack growth.

Their success may be entirely accurate. They also have a built-in market. They are selling help with the platform to people already gathered on the platform, often after bringing an audience, authority, or proven growth skills from somewhere else.

That does not make the result less impressive. It does make the conditions different.

Paid subscriptions become much more viable when you have at least one of three things: an audience you can bring, a built-in market with active demand, or a long runway to build patiently.

Can people really make a full-time income on Substack?

They do. Look closely at what they sell and where they began.

Many of the people with the largest paid memberships teach Substack growth. They have a built-in market on the platform because thousands of creators are already trying to solve that exact problem. Their own growth becomes proof of what they sell, which creates even more demand for the paid subscription.

Others brought their audience from somewhere else. They arrived with years of attention, trust, and demand already in place.

Both paths are legitimate. They also begin with conditions most new creators do not have.

Someone famous can bring thousands of people with them on day one. A writer with a long runway can patiently build for several years. A person who enjoys their job and wants extra money for travel may find that a small paid publication does exactly what they need.

I am speaking to someone else.

I am speaking to the person who feels meaningful work burning in their heart and wants enough financial freedom to answer the call. They want to serve people, create real change, and build a life around work that feels deeply their own.

For that person, time matters.

Why the slower path can feel safer

There is a reason so many thoughtful people choose to try to sell a $10 subscription first.

You can write behind your computer, publish, and wait. You never have to look someone in the eye and say, “I believe this can help you. Would you like to do this together?”

A deeper offer asks more of you.

You have to talk with people. You need to make personal invitations and find a way to sell that feels authentic. Someone may say no, and your body may interpret that no as rejection of something very close to your identity.

The $10 subscription gives you a smaller distance to fall.

The danger is what happens when you keep publishing and almost nobody buys.

You start thinking, “If I cannot sell this for $10, how could I ever sell something for $2,000?”

That interpretation can drain your confidence. Some people spend a year or two following a model that never had the economics to support them, then decide nobody wants their work.

I recently wrote about why the business model, not the work itself, may be the reason someone returns to a job after trying to build a business for two years.

Employment may have been the wisest choice for them. What stayed with me was the possibility that they left believing the work had failed when the structure around it never had a fair chance.

That is why the math matters.

Your work deserves a fair test.

Build close to the work first

Inside our paid publication, we teach a model called the Inverted Pyramid.

You begin with a small number of deeper, higher-value client relationships. For many people with a service-based body of work, an offer between $1,500 and $2,000 is a practical place to begin. It can create meaningful value for the client and meaningful revenue for the business without requiring a huge audience.

Three clients at $1,800 create $5,400.

You could also sell ten places in a $500 group and make $5,000. In practice, getting three strong yeses can be easier than finding ten new buyers every month. A lower price does not automatically create an easier sale.

The money creates breathing room, and the value runs much deeper.

Those first clients teach you the language of the people you are here to serve. You hear how they describe the problem before they know your framework. You discover what they have already tried, where they become afraid, and which parts of your work actually create movement.

You get good at solving real problems with real people.

That becomes the wellspring for everything you may create later.

Your conversations inform your writing. Repeated problems may become a group program, and the parts people can use on their own can become a course. Eventually, a membership has a clear role because you built it from lived demand rather than your own intellectual guesses.

You can scale downward as the audience, proof, language, and infrastructure grow.

Private work can become a smaller part of the business as your infrastructure grows. Carolina and I are making that move now. I also expect I will always work closely with some people because that is the heart of this work. It keeps me near what matters.

For those of us who love people and care about meaningful transformation, closeness is part of the freedom we wanted.

How to calculate whether a paid Substack can support you

Keep paid subscriptions if they serve your larger vision. Turn them on, experiment, and let people support your work. Allow the publication to become one valuable part of a larger whole.

Just know your numbers.

Go into Substack and find your average number of new subscribers per month. Choose a conversion estimate grounded in your actual results. Then calculate how many paid subscribers you would need to create the income you want and how long your current growth rate makes that likely to take.

Do the same with your courses, groups, and deeper offers.

Use our free Launch Reality Calculator if you want help running the numbers. Do not take my word for any of this. Put your own audience, price, conversion rate, and income goal into the calculator and let the math show you what the model requires.

Numbers help you decide what to build with your eyes open.

And if the math reveals a deeper conflict between what you want, what you trust yourself to offer, and the work you feel called to pursue, take the free Harmony Map Assessment.

It will help you look at the convergence of clarity, confidence, and purpose, then see where the real friction may be.

A paid Substack can become meaningful income. But replacing a salary usually requires a substantial audience, unusually strong conversion, premium pricing, or years of trust and authority built elsewhere. For many service-based creators, starting with a small number of deeper client relationships creates a faster and more forgiving path.

Keep the dream. Let clearer math help you build a path that gives your deeper work a genuine chance to support your life.

They first came into our community with a real desire to build something of their own. They were thoughtful. Capable. There was genuine passion behind the work.

And every so often, our paths would cross again.

Each time, I heard some version of the same thing:

“I think I’m going to keep trying this on my own a little longer.”

I respected that. I still do.

It is never my place to force advice on someone who has not asked for it. Even when I can see a pattern that concerns me, I do not want to become the person who assumes he knows someone else’s life better than they do.

So I stayed in touch. I checked in. I watched them keep trying.

Then, two years later, came the update:

They were going back to a job.

The business had not worked.

There is nothing wrong with returning to employment. Sometimes a job is the wisest next move. It can create stability, restore breathing room, or simply provide the life someone wants.

That was not the part that stayed with me.

What stayed with me was the possibility that they might walk away believing their work had failed because it was never valuable enough.

I am not convinced that was true.

From where I stood, the deeper work had always been there. So had the passion. What I kept noticing was a reluctance to let anyone help with the parts they did not yet know how to do.

And I understand that reluctance more than I would like to admit.

The closer it is to our identity, the harder it is to admit we need help

There is a particular kind of vulnerability in being highly capable and having to say:

“I do not know how to do this part.”

It is easier when the gap has nothing to do with our identity. I do not feel ashamed calling a plumber. Nobody expects me to know how to repair the pipes.

But when we are building a business around our own ideas, insight, or body of work, the gaps feel more personal.

If I am good at what I do, shouldn’t I know how to explain it?

Shouldn’t I know what to offer?

Shouldn’t the right people simply recognize its value?

That is where self-reliance can quietly turn into a closed loop.

We keep thinking with the same assumptions, testing versions of the same approach, and using the lack of response as proof that the original idea was wrong.

Meanwhile, the actual point of friction may be much more practical.

Maybe the offer is too broad for someone to understand why they need it now. Maybe the invitation never becomes clear enough to answer. Maybe the business model asks a low-priced subscription to produce income that would be far easier to create through a handful of deeper client relationships.

Those are business problems. They can be studied, tested, and improved.

But when you are inside the work, they rarely feel like that.

They feel like doubt.

They feel like heaviness.

They feel like a sign that perhaps you should wait.

Sometimes heaviness means you are learning

I felt this very clearly during a recent four-day sound-healing training here in Brazil.

The training included more than 45 hours of instruction in Portuguese. Carolina sat beside me translating much of it in real time, and I was grateful she did because my Portuguese still feels painfully limited.

There were wonderful people around me. I wanted to speak with them more freely, to form friendships, to understand the smaller comments and jokes that never make it through a translation.

And there was this heavy thing standing between us: I am still learning the language.

The difficulty did not mean I was in the wrong place.

It meant I did not yet have the capacity to experience everything the place could offer me.

Business can feel like that too.

The parts that brought you here may come naturally. You can listen deeply, see patterns others miss, create beauty, facilitate change, or help someone make sense of a part of their life.

Then you reach the place where the work must take form.

You have to choose what you are offering. You need words that help another person recognize themselves in it. Eventually, someone has to be invited to pay.

If you have never developed those skills, of course they may feel awkward. Of course your body may resist. New capacities often feel heavy before they feel natural.

The danger is interpreting every uncomfortable feeling as guidance to stop.

Your gift and your business are different bodies of work

People can study marketing, sales, positioning, and offer design for hundreds or thousands of hours. There is intuition in all of it, and there is also a craft.

Being gifted at your work does not automatically make you gifted at building the structure that allows the work to reach people.

That is not an indictment of your readiness.

It is a more dignifying explanation for why something meaningful may still be struggling to gain traction.

Too many people collapse these two questions into one:

“Is my work valuable?”

“Do I currently know how to build a viable business around it?”

Those questions need separate answers.

When we confuse them, every launch becomes a referendum on our worth. Every offer that does not sell seems to confirm that we were foolish to try. We retreat into more preparation, or decide we should return to the safer thing and stop asking so much of the work that called us.

Sometimes that decision is the right one.

And sometimes the work was ready to be received, while the structure around it never had a fair chance.

The courage to be helped

I used to think courage in business mostly looked like taking the leap, making the offer, or being visible.

Now I think one of its forms is knowing when you have reached the edge of your own perspective.

This does not mean handing your discernment to the next person with a polished sales page. There are good reasons people have trust issues around the business-advice industry.

It means finding someone whose thinking you respect and becoming willing to discover what you cannot see from inside your own patterns.

It might be a mentor. A skilled colleague. A clear diagnostic. Sometimes it is a customer who tells you, in one sentence, why the offer you spent three months perfecting makes no sense to them.

The source matters less than the willingness to receive the signal.

Because there is a real cost to carrying every question alone.

It is not only the money you may fail to earn. It is the two years spent going in circles. The energy drained by trying to take five directions all at once. The slow erosion of confidence that happens when effort keeps producing no useful evidence.

Eventually, a fixable blind spot begins to feel like fate.

And that is the part that breaks my heart.

Not everyone needs a coach. Not every business should continue. And going back to a job can be an intelligent, self-honoring choice.

I simply do not want gifted people abandoning meaningful work because they were diagnosing the wrong problem.

The work might be right.

The friction might be somewhere else.

And seeing that clearly could change what becomes possible next.

See what is actually creating the friction

If you have done substantial inner work and still wonder why the business feels harder than it should, the Sacred Business Harmony Map Assessment™ was made to help you see the pattern more clearly.

It is a free, eight-minute assessment that looks at the relationship between you, your business, and the deeper work that is asking to move through you.

It will not hand you a magical answer. It will help you stop guessing, identify where things are getting tangled, and see where your attention may belong next.

So if you want to move your deeper work forward without spending another year questioning the gift or piecing together random advice, begin here:

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See the pattern. Find the friction. Make the next move from there.

That’s what I told myself for years.

When something changes your life, maybe a technique you learned, a teacher you start following, a philosophy, a new way of seeing life, you often feel the pull to help other people.

You had the problem. You found the way through. Now you want everyone still stuck in it to know there’s a way out. You want to share the solution you found with as many people as possible.

There are many ways to do that. Most people build a business. The thing you love starts to pay you, so you can stop splitting your hours with a job that drains you. That time comes back to the work. More time, more people you can reach.

So you start a business.

And if you're anything like I was, you wear every hat. Support, practitioner, salesperson, marketer.

I thought growing the business meant two things: get people results, then get in front of as many people as possible. My work was an energy healing modality, and that was my magic, so that's what I led with. The method. Never me.

But I was missing something.

Because I made everything about the tool, I never paused to see my part in the transformation. I thought people were there for the modality, so I over-explained. I kept trying to make them understand why the work worked.

Then I got another certification, and it got worse. Now I was wearing one more hat. A teacher too.

And again, what I taught and the tools I used felt so powerful that making myself important seemed like ego. An indulgence. Who was I to be the point? I remember saying: I don’t do anything, anyone can learn this tool, it just works.

Maybe you've said something like that too.

You're a seeker. Smart. You had a problem, you found a solution, you learned something new and you applied it. You did the work. You're good at it, you've got the results, and you're already helping people. You have tools on your belt, many certifications, some from institutions that are distinguished. And you give the credit to all of it. Every last piece.

Except you.

That was me. I was proud of what I’d accomplished. So grateful for my teacher, for everything he taught me, that I forgot a simple thing. I was the one who took the actions. I walked the path and that was my magic too.

I remember trying to refer a client to another professional in the same modality, and she said, "Let's find a way to make this happen, I want you." And I argued with her that there was no difference, that the other person would help her just like I would.

She could see it. I couldn’t.

Sounds humble. It wasn’t. It was me writing myself out of my own story.

And a story with the hero left out doesn’t attract anyone. It just informs them.

We can feel the difference. When someone reads a book and explains what they learned, it feels very different from someone who read a book, did something with it, changed their life, and now tells you the story.

One has life in it. Emotion. Possibility. Transformation. The other is just more information.

People find you because they think you can solve their problem. But they stay because of who you are.

And who you are shows up only as clearly as you can see it.

I didn’t want to be them. And in refusing to make everything about me, I made nothing about me. I refused to see my own light.

But it turned out it wasn’t either/or. I didn’t have to choose between myself and the certifications. There was an option in the middle.

I had to honor both.

Nobody really cared about the tool or the certification. They wanted the result. And in the end they were the ones creating it. I was just holding the possibility open, because I’d already walked the path.

I had to recognize my part in it. I did it, so they can too.

Your business has more room to expand when you stop disappearing behind your expertise and embody your importance within it. You’re uniquely qualified to help people, not because you know the most tools or hold the right title, but because you transformed your own life first.

My business hit a ceiling. And the problem was never that I wasn’t qualified. I was under-authorized. And that authorization, I had to learn to give myself.

With Love,

Carolina

p.s. Maybe you already know you have something meaningful to offer, but bringing it fully into the world still feels harder than it should.

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It takes about eight minutes, and you’ll receive your personalized results immediately.

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See the pattern. Find the friction. Move your deeper work forward.

“How are you feeling right now?”

She paused.

“More grounded and settled,” she said. “For years, I’ve really struggled to explain what it is that I do. I know I do something…”

I know I do something.

Maybe you know that feeling too.

You know your work matters because you’ve watched it help people. They leave conversations with you seeing themselves differently. They make decisions they’ve been stuck on for months. They tell you how much your support changed things.

And then someone asks, “So, what exactly do you do?”

Suddenly, all that knowing turns to fog.

This morning was our first private Roadmapping Call for the first-ever cohort of Your First Yes.

It was with someone Carolina and I have wanted to work with for a long time. Her energy has been infectious in our broader community, and we’ve quietly hoped we might find the right way to support her more closely.

We started by spreading all the possibilities out on the table.

Different ways she could help. Offers she had already considered. Questions about how long the engagement should be, what it should include, and whether anyone would pay for it.

All of it legitimate.

None of it quite held together yet.

So we stayed with the deeper questions.

Who does she most want to help? What changes because of her work? Where does someone begin, and what meaningful step could they take with her support?

Slowly, the fog began to lift.

The work that had been difficult to explain for years started taking on a shape she could actually hold. There was now a clear offer she could build, test, and begin inviting people into.

And when she said she felt more grounded, I had this little surge of excitement:

This is why we created Your First Yes.

Much of our deepest work has previously happened inside private client engagements. We wanted to find a sweet spot that made this level of support more accessible, while still giving each person the attention their work deserves.

This morning, I could feel that sweet spot becoming real.

We’ve been slowly inviting people we already know in our world who feel like the right fit. A handful have said yes, and we still have a handful of places open.

The official eight-week cohort begins the week of September 28. Those joining early receive extra time and private feedback before we begin, and we’re scheduling their Roadmapping Calls now.

So if you can feel the value of your work but still struggle to give it a clear shape, and you’re ready to turn it into an offer you can confidently invite people into, we’d love to hear from you.

Comment YES below, send me a DM here on Substack, or email me at phil@sacredbusinessflow.com.

You don’t need a polished pitch.

Just tell me what you’re hoping to bring into the world.

With Love,
Phil

In 2007, I was working at Intuit, the company behind TurboTax and QuickBooks.

I was making excellent money. I had stock options. By most measures, I had already built a very good life.

Then I read The 4-Hour Workweek and discovered Leo Babauta’s writing at Zen Habits.

Those ideas gave me a different picture of success.

I wanted control of my time.

I wanted to travel, pursue my interests, and decide how I spent my days.

That vision led me into entrepreneurship.

And eventually, it worked beyond anything I had imagined.

I built a business serving doctors in the hearing-care industry. At its height, it generated more than $100,000 a month.

It was just me and a virtual assistant.

I remember thinking, Holy crap. I created this.

But eventually, the business reached a threshold.

I was the bottleneck.

The only way to keep growing was to hire a team, add management, and build the machinery required to run a much larger company.

That was the obvious next step.

It was also the moment I realized I did not want the life on the other side of that decision.

I had built a successful business I no longer wanted to own

I was bored.

I had solved the problem. I knew how to produce the result, and I did not want to spend the next decade producing more of it.

The business increasingly felt like an obligation. I was chained to my desk, burned out, and dealing with health and autoimmune issues.

One bitterly cold day in Boston, snow was coming down hard and I felt physically awful.

I remember thinking:

If I did this once, I can do it again on my own terms.

There was some wisdom in that.

There was also plenty of ego.

I had worked hard and built something valuable. I had also entered the right niche when Facebook ads were beginning to take off. Demand was strong. The timing was excellent. Some beginner’s luck had been on my side.

I underestimated how long it would take to rebuild around work I genuinely loved.

Then I made the least strategic decision imaginable.

I shut the business down.

No succession plan.

No transition.

No attempt to find a buyer.

I was so frustrated that I essentially said, “Fuck it. I’m done.”

The revenue tanked almost immediately.

There were things I could no longer afford. Rebuilding took years. And I still kick myself for failing to sell what was probably a very valuable asset.

The decision to leave was right.

The way I left was reckless.

That distinction matters.

I am not suggesting that you blow up a profitable business because you feel frustrated. Pause. Do the reflection. Run the numbers. Explore your options. If you have built a valuable asset, sell it rather than abandoning it in a Boston snowstorm.

But I have never regretted refusing to spend the rest of my life inside that business.

Every business model has a life hidden inside it

After closing the business, I began attending retreats and spending more time in Costa Rica.

My life became more interesting, even while my income became less predictable.

Before closing the hearing-care business, I had invited Leo Babauta to teach at one of my retreats.

One day, we were out in the surf near Jacó when he asked what I did.

I told him how I helped businesses grow.

He said, “Oh man, I think I could use that help too.”

That conversation changed something for me.

I realized there was an entire world of creators, teachers, and transformational practitioners who needed the business skills I had developed.

These were people I wanted to serve.

They were doing work I found meaningful.

They were living closer to the way I wanted to live.

That eventually became the foundation for the business and life I have now.

The financial tradeoff was real, and the path forward was slower and less predictable than I imagined.

But the work became more meaningful, and my life became far more interesting and enjoyable.

Here is the lesson:

Revenue tells you whether a business can make money. It does not tell you whether you will enjoy the life required to keep making it.

Most people choose a revenue goal first.

Then they adopt the offers, funnels, content plans, team structures, and growth strategies they believe will get them there.

They never stop to ask what happens if the plan works.

Do you want the ordinary day your strategy is creating?

Imagine your current business succeeds beyond your expectations.

It is ten years from now.

What does an ordinary day look like?

How are you spending your working hours?

Who are you spending them with?

How much time goes toward the work that gives you energy?

How much goes toward managing people, systems, delivery, and complexity?

Can you travel when you want to?

Do you have time and attention for your family?

How does your body feel?

Are you still close to the work and the people you wanted to help?

Or did success promote you into a job you never wanted?

These questions are more useful than asking how large your business could become.

A low-ticket offer requires volume.

Volume requires reach, conversion systems, and customer support.

A large membership requires ongoing acquisition and retention.

A large company requires leadership, management, and responsibility for other people’s livelihoods.

None of those models are wrong.

Some people are genuinely called to build large organizations. They love developing teams, setting direction, and creating something far bigger than themselves.

But scale is a business model.

It is not a moral achievement.

The opportunity is to choose the model that supports the life you actually want.

Start with the life. Then run the business math backward from there.

Suppose you want to generate $20,000 a month.

You want to work approximately 25 hours a week, stay close to the people you serve, travel freely, and avoid managing a large team.

You may need one primary offer priced between $3,000 and $5,000.

That means four to seven sales a month.

To make those sales, you need a clear group of people with a meaningful problem you are especially equipped to solve.

You need an excellent offer, a way to reach the right people, and a simple rhythm of invitations, conversations, and follow-up.

You might need a modest audience, several strong referral partners, and one excellent assistant.

You probably do not need five offers, daily content, a complicated funnel, or thousands of customers.

One audience.

One primary offer.

One simple way of finding and inviting the right people.

That can create a serious business.

For many transformational practitioners, consistent $10,000, $20,000, or $30,000 months would change everything.

They could care for their bodies, spend more time with their families, travel, create, and contribute.

They could make decisions based on their values instead of financial pressure.

Their gifts would help people and support their own lives.

That business does not become less meaningful because it stays small.

Complexity does not make it more legitimate.

Your first yes should prove more than demand

This is why your first yes matters.

It proves that someone will pay for the work.

It also gives you evidence about the business taking shape around it.

Did you enjoy serving this person?

Did the offer allow you to do your best work?

Did the price support the depth of attention required?

Can you find and invite more people like them in a way you can sustain?

If this offer succeeds, will it move you toward the life you want?

Your first offer will evolve. Your first client does not determine your future.

But every yes gives you data.

Use that data to build deliberately.

The goal is bigger than proving you can sell something.

You are looking for evidence that your deeper work can become a clear offer, create sustainable income, and support a life you genuinely want to live.

Before you scale the business, choose the life.

Then build accordingly.

Where is your business out of harmony?

You may already sense that something about your business feels harder, more complicated, or less satisfying than it should.

That does not automatically mean you need a better funnel or another offer.

The friction may be showing you that the inner work, the business structure, and the life you want are pulling in different directions.

The free Harmony Map Assessment helps you see the pattern, identify what is creating friction, and understand where your attention belongs next.

It takes about eight minutes.

Most people finish it thinking:

“That explains a lot.”

Take the Free Harmony Map Assessment →

See the pattern. Find the friction. Move your deeper work forward.

She had launched an offer to her list of 62 subscribers and made one sale.

To her, it felt like failure.

But one sale from 62 people is a 1.6% conversion rate.

For a newer creator, that is not bad news.

That is signal.

That is the beginning of traction.

And this is also where so many people lose the plot.

Not because the the quality of their work is bad

Not because the offer is wrong.

But because they do not yet have the right scoreboard.

They often measure early movement against someone else’s visible success, without seeing the invisible backstory:

• the ten-year career behind the audience

• the old list behind the “overnight” Substack growth

• the ad spend behind the polished launch

• the years of trust that got compressed into one visible moment

So they make one dangerous mistake:

They read what feels like a small result as proof that something is wrong, instead of seeing it for what it really is.

Usually, it is not something gone “wrong”.

Usually, it means you are much closer than you think.

The real issue is not always the launch. It’s the model.

A small launch can still be a strong launch.

But it may also reveal something important:

you might need a different business model, not more self-doubt.

This is the math nobody explains.

If you are trying to build a sustainable business on low-ticket offers alone, you need a lot of volume. Usually far more than early-stage creators realize.

That does not mean your offer failed.

It means the structure may need to evolve.

And that is actually good news.

Because if your work is creating real resonance, you do not need to chase a giant audience first.

You may need:

• a clearer path

• a stronger offer model

• and a business structure that can support your life while you grow

That is a much more hopeful problem to solve.

Small rooms are not failure

There is also a fear almost nobody talks about:

What if only a few people say yes?

People imagine the awkward Zoom room.

The tiny group.

The visible proof that they are “not there yet.”

But small rooms are often where the best work happens.

More intimacy.

More attention.

More transformation.

More truth.

One of the most powerful ideas Carolina brought into her first business was what she calls the Power of One:

One more client.

One more subscriber.

One more person on the call.

That is not small thinking.

That is how great businesses are built.

The good news

The good news is this:

You do not need to win the volume game first to build something successful.

If the work is resonating, if people are saying yes, if transformation is happening, you may not be failing at all.

You may simply be standing at the point where your business needs a model that can hold your depth.

That is exactly why we implement the Inverted Pyramid inside Serve and Receive with many of our clients.

Instead of trying to build from the bottom up with cheap offers and exhausting volume, you build a strong base first:

• fewer people

• deeper transformation

• better economics

• more breathing room

• and a business that can actually support your life as it grows

That is not a compromise.

That is often the simpler, saner, more sustainable path.

Before you call your launch a failure, ask:

• Is this actually a bad result, or just a small one?

• Is the offer resonating?

• Is the conversion healthy for my stage of business?

• Am I trying to solve a business-model problem with more effort?

• What if this result is pointing me toward a better structure, not away from the work?

That is the conversation that matters.

Because sometimes a “failed” launch is not failure at all.

Sometimes its actually the first piece of evidence that your work is taking hold, and that it is time to build the right business around it.

Carolina and I were in Austin, Texas, for a mastermind retreat. Our business was brand new, and we were standing in front of a group of our peers.

We played music.

We guided them through a heart meditation.

And all the while, I was trying to keep one hand behind my back or pressed against my side so nobody would notice it shaking.

This was a new identity for me.

I had spent years in the business world. I knew how to talk about marketing, funnels, and strategy. Now I was standing beside Carolina, asking a room full of people to close their eyes and drop into their hearts.

I remember wondering how they were going to see me.

Would they think I had lost the plot?

Would this change how they saw my business experience?

Could I really let people I respected see this part of me?

My body was offering a pretty clear vote.

Get off the stage.

But underneath the fear, I knew there was something worth sharing.

So I returned to the simplest thing I could find.

Service.

If this experience might help someone, my job was to share it as clearly as I could.

My hand kept shaking.

I kept going.

The spiritual version of hiding at the pub

I thought about that moment this week while listening to a teaching from one of my teachers, Jayem.

He was talking about effortlessness, a word that gets used often in spiritual circles.

Sometimes we use it to describe a life where the right opportunities arrive at exactly the right moment. The clients find us. The words come through. Nothing requires too much effort because we are aligned with the divine.

There is truth in that experience.

There is also a version of it that gives our comfort zone a spiritual name.

Jayem gives the example of someone who is afraid to speak in front of 500 people. The person decides the speech is not important after all and goes to the pub instead.

From the outside, that might look like surrender.

Perhaps they have released the need to prove themselves. Perhaps speaking no longer feels aligned. Perhaps life is asking them to rest and trust.

Or perhaps they are scared.

Spiritual language can make almost any decision sound wise while fear is actually making the decision for us.

That is the trouble with resistance. It rarely introduces itself honestly.

It tells us we are waiting for clarity.

It says the timing is not right.

It convinces us that needing courage means we have left the flow.

Then Jayem offers a very different definition:

“Effortlessness means simply that you abandon the resistance to what love requires in each moment.”

I felt into that.

Because love may require something that challenges you.

It may ask you to give the talk while your hand is still shaking.

It may ask you to send the email that makes your work easier to find.

It may ask you to explain what you do in language another person can understand.

It may even ask you to make an offer and let someone answer.

The meaning we give the invitation

An invitation does not arrive with a spiritual meaning attached to it.

Neither does marketing.

They become heavy under the meaning we place on them.

If I believe marketing means bothering people, I will recoil each time I sit down to write.

If I believe making an offer puts my worth up for a vote, every invitation will feel dangerous.

If I have decided that good, spiritual people should never need to sell, telling someone how I can help will create conflict inside me.

That conflict can feel like guidance.

It can feel like intuition warning me to stop.

Sometimes it is.

And sometimes I am feeling the weight of my own judgment.

This is one reason our inner work and business work cannot be separated.

You can learn the mechanics of making an offer in an afternoon. You can choose the words, write the email, and add the offer link.

But if some part of you believes the whole thing is manipulative, needy, or spiritually suspect, those mechanics will never feel effortless.

The armor will keep coming up.

So you soften the language until nobody can tell what you are offering.

You share helpful ideas but never give people a clear way to work with you.

You wait for someone to ask, hoping the right clients will somehow recognize an offer you have never fully made.

Then you call the waiting alignment.

Your hands may still shake

There is another passage in The Way of Mastery that says life begins when we look through the eyes of forgiveness and choose to embody love regardless of what anyone else is doing.

For me, that is where effortlessness begins.

Judgment requires armor.

If I have judged other people for making offers, I will expect the same judgment when I make one.

I know exactly what I have thought about the person who emails too often, talks too openly about money, or seems to turn every conversation into a sale. Now I am afraid that making any clear invitation will put me in the same category.

So I hold back.

My fear of being judged is often built from judgments I have already made.

Forgiveness loosens some of that armor.

It allows me to see that marketing itself has never been the problem. I can release the tactics that feel forceful and choose a way of inviting people that reflects who I actually am.

It lets the other person be free to decide.

And it lets me make a clear invitation without turning their answer into a verdict on my worth.

This does not guarantee that my hands will stop shaking.

It means the shaking no longer gets the final word.

That day in Austin, I did not reach some perfect state of surrender. I was still frightened. I was still trying to hide my hand.

But for a few minutes, service mattered more than the story in my head.

There was something we wanted to share.

There were people in front of us who might receive value from it.

And love, in that moment, required becoming visible enough to give it.

That was enough to keep going.

Maybe effortlessness has less to do with waiting for life to remove every obstacle.

Maybe it begins when we stop adding our resistance to the challenge already in front of us.

Your next expression of love may be a meditation.

It may also be an email, a conversation, or a clear offer.

The presence of effort does not tell you whether the action is aligned.

The more useful question is:

What would become possible if you stopped resisting what your work is asking of you now?

Find where the resistance is coming from

If your deeper work matters to you, but bringing it into the world still feels harder than it should, the Harmony Map Assessment can help you see why.

It looks at the relationship between you, your business, and the divine to reveal where the friction is strongest and where your attention belongs next.

It takes about eight minutes, and it is free.

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In every spiritual teaching I’ve ever touched, ancient to modern, the same thing is said: we build our world from the inside out.

Our reality is our own.

It’s shaped by our thoughts, our emotions, our desires. Two people can be in the same place, the same house, the same event, and be experiencing two completely different worlds.

I don’t question this.

Life has shown me, over and over, that this is true. It has shown me when I am feeling like a powerful creator and even when I am not. Reality is created by us. Sometimes in a very interesting way.

Have you ever looked at your kid and thought, he’s going to spill that milk everywhere, and in the very next second, there it goes? Milk on the floor, on his clothes, across the table? lol… this happened just few days ago.

I laugh when that happens. Those little instant manifestations.

When we’re present enough, we see it all the time. A thought that becomes real. A person who reaches out right as you think of them. A desire that shows up, or something you didn’t want, unfolding right in front of your eyes.

And yet, when it comes to building a business, we’re wired to believe the opposite. Social media and the internet do a great job of showing us the recipe for success.

Just do this and tcham, you’ll get what you want.

The idea is born inside us. Even the ready-made recipes admit that much.

But then they tell you the rest lives outside. Post every day. Pick a lane and never leave it. Hook them in the first three seconds. Build the funnel, nail the offer, show up whether you feel like it or not. Be louder. As if we were all robots chasing the same outcome.

Two things get lost in that.

First, almost no one stops to define what success actually means to them. So we get sold on something we don’t even want.

And second, life is happening at the very same time you’re building the business. So when you can’t keep up with the recipe, it makes you feel wrong, behind, and you start to question whether your calling was ever even for you.

I rejected marketing and business-growth strategies for years. And the more time passes, the clearer it becomes: I believe in building a business from the inside out. I don’t reject strategy but I don’t buy in becoming a robot or having my whole life built around my business, my business should be built around my life.

Would you agree?

I reject the quick promises.

I reject “just do what I do and you’ll get results,” with no context, no you in it. I reject “just stay consistent and it’ll happen.”

I reject ignoring one of the most beautiful gifts your business can give you, the gift of transformation.

I reject the idea that business is separate from the rest of life, that you make money here even if it makes you feel like shit, and then live how you can with the hours you have left.

I rejected all of it. And I still built something real.

Something that supports the quality of life I want to experience: the travels, the delicious restaurants, time with my family, time to retreat, to take courses, to study, to slow down. A business I wake up excited for, that connects me with amazing people and lets me serve the way I love.

Which means the rejection was never the thing holding me back. It was pointing me somewhere.

If you feel tired and fed up with marketing and general business-growth advice, you are not delusional, and you are not wrong.

It's just not for you.

This mentality of treating people like robots is not part of the world you are creating.

Almost seven years into building my own business, I learned that business is no exception to the rule. It can and should be built from the inside first.

The real skills of building a business aren’t the ones we’re sold.

They’re deep care. Honesty. Authenticity. A big desire to help. Alignment with what actually matters to you. More connection with your heart.

Expanding your network through meaningful connection. Getting to know people your heart senses are building worlds similar to yours.

And yes, a willingness to be seen. And yes, a willingness to feel uncomfortable.

But not the discomfort of forcing yourself into something that isn’t you. Not the ache of doing what everyone else does and hoping it works.

The discomfort of your own expansion. Of listening. Of slowing down enough to hear your own intuition, and then actually moving on it.

Because the discomfort of growth is not the same as the discomfort of doing something that isn’t aligned. One expands you. The other slowly erases you.

That’s the business I built. Listening to my inner wisdom, paying attention to the signs of life. And yes, I got help.

Not because I was searching the outer world for solutions, but because my inner clarity attracted the people who could show me what I couldn’t see. When they reflected it back to me, it felt like home, not like hustle.

Your business will bring the success you’re looking for, the external life you want to experience. But more than that, it will heal you on many levels.

Your relationship with your own power. With the parts of you that you don’t accept, or reject. Your relationship with money and abundance.

Your ability to honor yourself. That one is big.

A successful business is born and grows out of pleasure. Out of what makes you feel alive. Not out of the hustle we’re all made to believe in.

I want a business that honors my values. That honors my relationship with nature, my kids, my family, my cycles, my sacred pause. That honors and supports the experiences I want to have in this life. And this is the business I am building.

A business that serves my life, not a life that serves the business.

Business is not different from anything else. It is meant to be built from the inside out.

Just like everything else.

We were sucked into an industry that wants us to believe success is reached from the outside in.

I’m not playing this game. And you don’t have to either.

So let’s enjoy this. Let’s have fun, make good money, and build businesses that contribute to the world we want to see more of.

Life is meant to be fun. And i’m fairly sure that includes the business too.

With love,

Carolina

She wanted people to find her. Twenty years of expertise and almost nobody knew the work existed.

She’s sharp and capable and busy, so it looked like a time problem.

Then on a call with Carolina and I, she said:

“I come from a very ‘business is evil’ place. And a welcome series and lead magnets doesn’t get a lot more businessy than that.”

Every week in her mind, she was declining to become the kind of marketer who represents everything “evil” to her. And every week the list stayed exactly where it was while louder people with less to say kept getting more clients.

So Carolina offered her a different way to look at it. A welcome sequence is showing someone around your house. The lead magnet is the gift you hand them at the door.

I watched her whole body relax on camera.

“I can relate to inviting someone into my house.”

Then she got the rest of it herself.

“And then the lead magnet is the gift.”

Months of being stuck started loosening up in about ninety seconds.

Here’s what I want you to take from that.

Her instinct was correct. She just had it aimed at the entire category instead of the part that deserving of it. What she was actually refusing was manipulation, and nobody had ever taught her to tell that apart from marketing as a broader category, so she threw it all out the window and stayed invisible for another year.

I spent years in the bowels of persuasion. Funnel hacking, psychographics, all of it. I know exactly which tactics work and I decline to use most of them, not because they don’t work, but because of what they cost my inner experience. So when I tell you the welcome sequence isn’t one of them, I’m telling you as someone who was fluent enough to have chosen otherwise.

She doesn’t have to become a marketer. She’s someone who invites people into her house and hands them something at the door. That was available to her the whole time.

says it well:

“Your influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people’s interests first.”

The lead magnet was capable of doing exactly that the whole time. She just couldn’t see it as a gift while she relating to it as a manipulation tactic.

The gap between what you know you should do and what you actually do is almost never discipline. Most of the capable people I talk to are aimed slightly wrong, and effort at the wrong target feels 100% like grinding. The same effort, set at the right target, barely feels like work at all.

That’s what the Harmony Map is for. Eight minutes. It doesn’t hand you a flaw to work on. It shows you the strengths to be leveraged, and the one place where breakthrough lives.

See where you’re aimed →

You’ve got the expertise. You’ve done the inner work. Let’s go.

Phil (& Carolina)

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She was out for a walk when she ran into someone she knew from her past. Well-connected, generous, and exactly the kind of person she’d been hoping to connect with about her new business for months. They stopped, had a friendly chat, and the acquaintance asked her the easiest question in the world.

So what are you up to these days?

The door, wide open. All she had to do was walk through it.

Instead she kept it light. Talked about the weather, more or less. Then they said their goodbyes and went their separate ways.

She got about half a block down the street before it hit her.

I can’t believe I didn’t say anything.

Pay attention here. It isn’t that she has nothing to say. She has a real calling. She’s already built the business, secured a lease on a physical property, and in every way is further along than she tends to give herself the credit for.

But it isn’t fully real to her yet. Getting there, but not fully. And it’s really hard to speak to something that doesn’t quite feel real yet, so when the moment came, there was nothing there to anchor her.

I watched her tell this to the group and I recognized it on the spot, because I’ve been there more times than I’d like to admit.

We treat clarity like a ticket you have to show at the door. Get clear first, we tell ourselves, and then we’ll put ourselves out there and finally share our message.

We have it backwards.

You don’t get clear and then get seen. You get seen, over and over, and that is how it becomes real. The sidewalk conversation you’re dreading is how clarity gets created as a gift from life. It will never arrive beforehand, waiting politely for you to feel ready.

And the cost of waiting is subtle, which is what makes it dangerous. Every “so what do you do?” you deflect teaches your body and nervous system that the work still isn’t yours to claim. The identity stays theoretical. The opportunities keep passing by, unclaimed.

For what it’s worth, this is the whole reason Carolina and I build our offerings the way we do. People come to us certain they need to be clear before they’re allowed to begin. They don’t. The only threshold that has ever mattered is a calling that won’t let you go, and the willingness to bring it forth. The what and the how, we build together. That part it really helps to have someone in your corner to figure out. If you feel that pull and you’re done waiting to feel ready, this is where we help people cross it.

So here’s the one thing I’d love you to do today.

Think of the last time someone asked what you’re up to and you minimized what you shared, or simply didn’t say a thing about it. What did you wish you’d said?

Reply or tell me in the comments. Say it here first, where it’s 100% safe. Better to find the words here than half a block too late.

Phil (& Carolina)

And then, what felt something like out of nowhere, something stopped me completely. As if someone had put their arm across my chest. My body stopped, my legs couldn’t hold my weight anymore, and I dropped to my knees.

I started crying, sobbing… the way you cry when you are deeply sad or discouraged. It was a weird feeling, as if I had been cheating myself my whole life and had just figured that out.

You know when someone tells you that you hurt them, and maybe you never intended to, but you feel so bad about yourself? That’s the best way I can describe my feelings. It was a mix of feeling sorry, feeling shame, together with an aha moment…

A dear friend from the group saw me kneeling and came back. She wasn’t super far; she was also a little behind the whole group. She thought I had fallen. I couldn’t really speak. There were no words to explain what was happening. All I managed to say was that I was fine, I hadn’t fallen.

In a weird way, it felt so good to be seen like that. I was feeling broken, confused, guilty, and weak… She wasn’t judging me.

She just witnessed me. Then she extended her hand, without making any of it wrong. She was being something for me that I had probably never allowed myself to be. I felt it was ok to just be, and that I didn’t need to know better in that moment.

I had always been this person seen as the strong one, the one who has her shit together, the one who makes things happen, so being the confused, weak, and broken one felt like liberation.

The “out of nowhere” had actually been building.

That trip was beyond anything I had ever experienced. My presence in my own body, my thoughts, my emotions… it put me in touch with myself in ways I had never known. Every temple felt like uncovering a being that had been buried under all my goals and to-do lists.

I felt a power I didn’t know I had.

I knew things I had never been told, only to have them confirmed by the tour guide. I saw life from a perspective I didn’t know existed, and for a reason I didn’t understand, that perspective seemed more like reality than the whole life I was living.

Then I came home.

My father was at my house with my daughter and my partner at the time. They had prepared a welcome dinner for me, and I feel shame even saying this, but I couldn’t appreciate it. I was filled with anger, frustration… I was so upset with life. I felt a rejection toward everything and everyone around me.

At the dinner table, my mind was full of judgment. How can they live this life and think it’s normal? And then judging myself for judging them. I had just had this beautiful encounter with god, with life, with pure love back in Egypt, and here I was, with the people I love the most, judging that they should be and think differently than they are.

It felt so far from God, even further away than my previous version before this trip.

It showed up everywhere.

My first day back at work, I was so far outside of myself that I couldn’t turn on my computer. I had forgotten all my passwords, and I had forgotten where I’d written them down. It took me weeks to be able to interact with the world again, and that interaction never got to be what it was before. My sense of self dissolved. Why this, why that… the questions overflowed into every relationship in my life.

Maybe you’ve had a version of this for yourself. The minute you met your own light, and it was so bright it blinded you to the beauty of life. It doesn’t stay that way, but for a while, it can take everything.

Until that moment, I had been living my own version of spiritual awakening through meditation, yoga, breathwork, rituals, studying, reading, learning from teachers I admired.

Spirituality was a beautiful path of meeting myself and learning to manifest the life I wanted, because I had discovered I was a creator and could choose my own experiences.

Until that moment, it had felt more like a honeymoon… all romance, all possibility.

I was living by understandings I was learning, entertaining my mind with the possibilities.

But meeting my power the way I did on that trip turned my life upside down.

And this is the part I don’t often read out there. The path keeps evolving, but it isn’t always beautiful.

It brings shame, guilt, selfishness to the surface, and I have to face it. I am still learning that if I truly want to experience my light more, I need to be ok with my ugliness too.

Once you see your light, you can’t unsee it.

Maybe you’ve had your version of experiencing your light. Maybe, just like me, it didn’t get translated into external changes right away, but I know it keeps giving you hints.

You sense there is more… more that wants to be lived, not just felt.

For me, it meant I couldn’t keep limiting myself working for someone else. Part of my own transformation was going on a quest to build a business that would feed the quality of life I wanted to experience.

Having my spiritual life over here and my work over there felt like a lie to myself. Maybe for some people work is just work, and that’s fine.

Not for me. Maybe not for you.

Life is showing me that my business is also part of my spirituality, my path to evolution.

My business keeps healing me and helping me see where I can’t sustain my light yet.

There’s a tool Phil and I made for exactly this. It’s called the Harmony Map.

We built it years ago in Costa Rica, back when we were trying to answer one question. How do you build a business that works on the inside as well as the outside?

It looks at your relationship to yourself, and to the business, and to the divine, whatever you understand that to be. Nine energies sit across those three. About twelve minutes to take it.

The one you want to see is your lowest. That’s your breakthrough frequency, the place you feel the most resistance and have the most room to grow.

Take the Harmony Map

With love,
Carolina