You Don’t Have to Do Anything

Sacred Business begins with the courage to want.

I love the simplicity of this sentence, it invites such a nice idea of a simple, light life.

But how hard it is for us to accept that as true?

Pay attention to your day and notice how it is filled with I have, I must, I need. Mine too. There is always a list, there is always a sense of I have to do something, as if I had no other choice available.

I have to go to work, I have to clean the house, I need to pay my bills, I need to do groceries, I must book that appointment, I need to go to the gym, I need to write my next essay.

If we go deeper in this understanding, don’t you feel like a prisoner? Always having to do something, and implicitly if you don’t do it, there is this energy of punishment, of falling behind.

The problem behind this way of relating to life is not the list of things you will do. The problem is we keep reinforcing a way of being that is victim of our own creation, that doesn’t have the ability to choose.

And can you feel the heaviness in the “I have”? Unconsciously, if you “have to” do something and you don’t, you failed.

If we keep exploring this topic it gets worse.

Not only do you have a lot of things, but I can bet that most of your “I have” doesn’t even come from you. It’s a list of requests, needs, obligations that others are putting on you, that society is telling you: “you should, you must… or.”

Let’s go beyond the to-do list of our days.

Even though I feel this is changing, there is still so much of: you should grow up, have a university degree, and after that many other degrees. You need a successful career, you need to make money, you should marry a good man or woman, that should become a good father/mother because you should have kids, and you have to own a house, and your kids should go to a good school and you have to provide them a good education so they can follow this recipe and have a good life.

Notice how we lose our sense of autonomy. How we feed the disconnection between what we do and who we are. Again, the problem is not in the doing, the problem is in how we relate to life itself. As if we had no choice, we end up hard-wiring our brain for no possibilities.

Our doing becomes externally oriented.

Think of kids. I don’t think I have ever heard my kids or any kids, especially before 7 or 8 years old, say “I need to play.” They naturally say, “I want to play.” They don’t even say when they are tired, “I need to sleep.” They say, “I want to sleep.”

The concept of need, the way we use it, was taught.

It is an external orientation that puts us in a box of predictable behaviors. That’s part of the conditioning that we never stop to question. We just accept it as “it is what it is,” and we tell ourselves we have no choice.

This is profound.

As we grow, obligations pile on: “You must behave.” “You should study harder.” “You need to get a degree.” We start trading our inner compass—desire, curiosity, authenticity—for external approval. Every “I have to” reinforces a belief: I am not free to choose.

In this conditioning we create the loss of confidence, because we no longer trust what we want. We outsource our authority to rules, to others, to society. The more our doing is dictated by external obligation, the more we confirm the belief: “I can’t trust myself — I must wait for approval or instruction.”

Psychologists have found that when people feel their actions come from choice rather than obligation, their well-being, motivation, and confidence rise dramatically. Autonomy is fuel for confidence.

And this matters because confidence isn’t about perfection or certainty—it’s about the trust that your inner voice is worth following.

Confidence isn’t built by stacking credentials or achievements—it is remembered every time you choose want over have.

Confidence is nothing more than the trust that your desires are valid, that your inner compass is worthy of guiding your life. When you trade “have to” for “want to,” you are re-authorizing yourself as the creator, not the prisoner.

This is the very foundation of a Sacred Business: you no longer build from fear of what you should do, but from the joy of what you truly want to create.

But what if we could start shifting all the needs, all the haves, to I want?

I want to go to work today and give my best, I want to help my client to create something unique, I want to do groceries to buy delicious food, I want to go to the bank to solve that situation (yes, even for that you can shift from I have to want), I want to pay taxes and contribute with my city, I want to eat, I want to sleep, I would love to go to the gym, I want to buy a house, I want a better job, I want more money, I want to create a Sacred Business, I want to express my voice, I want to be more authentic, I want to serve.

Just sit with that.

Say it out loud and notice how it feels—wanting versus having.

So maybe the invitation is simple: notice the language that runs your life. Every “have to” is an echo of conditioning. Every “want to” is a return to confidence—not the kind you perform, but the kind you were born with.

Because confidence is not about being certain of outcomes. It’s about trusting yourself enough to want. Wanting is holy. Wanting is what children do before anyone tells them otherwise. And wanting is what makes you a creator instead of a prisoner.

And here’s the paradox worth remembering: the moment you choose want, even in something small, you break the spell of conditioning. You step back into authorship of your life. That single shift is enough to begin rewiring your confidence.

The more you choose “I want,” the more you remember that your desires are not flaws to be managed but signals of your essence. And when your essence leads, your confidence doesn’t need to be built—it shines naturally.

This is the ground of a Sacred Business: not obligation, not performance, not “should,” but the simple, powerful declaration—I want to serve, I want to create, I want to live fully as myself.

With Love,

Carolina

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Now let’s make this real in your life.

If you want to begin shifting your confidence and remembering that you are always at choice, releasing the heaviness of the endless “I have list,” I have a powerful embodiment exercise for you.

Think of it as the doorway from knowing into living.

Let’s begin: