112: Why Pursuing Success Is Actually Selfless

Why Your Success Evolves Everyone Around You (and how to see it) - with an exercise

Have you ever stopped long enough to ask yourself how your success contributes not just to your own evolution, but to the evolution of consciousness itself?

Most people never ask that question.
They assume success is something that happens later, after they’ve proven themselves, fixed themselves, disciplined themselves, or shrunk themselves into a socially acceptable version of “enough.”

And underneath all that, there’s a quieter belief:

Wanting your version of success makes you selfish.

Wanting more money.
Wanting more freedom.
Wanting more spaciousness.
Wanting more joy.
Wanting more time.

People say it out loud or whisper it to themselves:
Who am I to want this?

But here’s the truth most of us avoid:

Not going after what success truly means to you is the selfish thing.

Because the version of you who refuses to grow is the version who keeps every part of your life small.
Your relationships shrink.
Your presence shrinks.
Your creativity shrinks.
Your generosity shrinks.
Your lineage shrinks.
Your leadership shrinks.
Your possibility shrinks.

When you stay below your potential, you don’t just deny yourself.
You deny every person connected to you.

This exercise reveals that in the most honest way.

Before you begin, I want you to treat this as a ritual.
Give yourself one or two uninterrupted hours.
Light a candle.
Go to a quiet coffee shop.
Sit under a tree.
Lie on your bedroom floor.
Choose a space where truth feels welcome, where your deeper self can rise to the surface without interruption.

Because the moment you begin writing, you will start to see how much good you offer the world simply by pursuing what your heart already holds.

Let’s begin.

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The Exercise: How Your Success Lifts Every Part of You

1. Write your vision for your Sacred Business at the top of a blank sheet of paper.

Use plain white paper. No lines.
Let the page feel like possibility.

Write the clear, structural version of your success.
Not the poetic vision.
Not the feeling.
The form.

The numbers.
The shape.
The scale.

For example:

“I want a coaching business serving 10–15 clients a year, a community of 500 people, and $500k in annual revenue.”

This is not a manifestation request.
This is clarity.
Clarity always precedes expansion.

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2. On the left side of the page, list all your current roles.

Every identity you hold in the world right now.
Don’t edit. Don’t minimize. Don’t hide.

• Mother

• Father

• Partner

• Wife

• Husband

• Daughter

• Son

• Sister

• Brother

• Friend

• Neighbor

• Teacher

• Student

• Business owner

• Client

• Mentor

• Artist

• Writer

• Athlete

• Traveler

• Community member

• Colleague

• Leader

• Team member

• Coach

• Practitioner

• Caregiver

• Homemaker

• Creator

Every role you hold is an entire world you influence.

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3. For each current role, write how the successful version of you elevates that identity.

This is where the truth reveals itself.

Mother
Success gives me presence, spaciousness, overflow. It lets my children witness what self-belief looks like. It gives them richer experiences, a regulated mother, and a model for possibility.

Father
Success allows me to show up grounded, steady, generous, relaxed. It gives my children a father whose life is not defined by survival or stress.

Partner
Success gives me more emotional capacity. It softens my nervous system. It brings clarity, patience, and romance instead of depletion.

Daughter / Son
Success allows me to hold my parents with more compassion instead of needing their approval. It opens generosity, time, and choice.

Sister / Brother
Success gives me the clarity to support, to lead, or to set boundaries without resentment.

Friend
Success lets me show up as the friend who doesn’t cancel out of exhaustion. It creates overflow, energy, and freedom to initiate connection.

Business Owner
Success brings systems, leadership, clarity, and peace. It turns chaos into structure and survival into service.

Teacher / Coach
Success deepens embodiment. I teach from lived truth, not theory.

Artist
Success gives me time to create without guilt, materials that inspire me, and space to explore beauty for its own sake.

Neighbor
Success allows me to contribute to my environment, support local projects, offer presence, and bring beauty to shared spaces.

Athlete / Yogi / Mover
Success gives me more time for movement, which keeps my body, heart, and mind alive.

Community Member
Success helps me give more: time, resources, leadership, service.

As you complete the list, one thing becomes unmistakably clear:

Your success expands every existing part of you.
Nothing stays untouched.
Every identity rises.

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4. Now, on a separate section below, list the roles you desire but don’t yet feel available to you.

These aren’t fantasies.
They’re the future rooms you feel inside you but haven’t stepped into yet.

• Philanthropist

• Retreat leader

• International speaker

• Investor

• Author

• Founder of a global community

• Creative producer

• Embodiment educator at scale

• Team leader

• Curriculum creator

• Visionary CEO

• Legacy builder

• Higher-level mentor

• Healer

• Thought leader

Write them all.
Even the ones you don’t dare say out loud.

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5. For each future role, write how your success makes that identity possible.

Philanthropist
Success circulates wealth. I become a channel for generosity and impact.

Retreat Leader
Success funds the locations, the team, the spaces where transformation happens.

Investor
Success gives me the resources to grow money instead of chase it.

Author
Success gives me the time and confidence to write what needs to be written and the platform for it to matter.

International Speaker
Success funds travel, preparation, and the inner spaciousness required to stand on a stage.

Founder
Success builds the foundation for a community that sustains itself.

Leader
Success gives me the maturity, stability, and clarity to guide others with integrity.

This is where your mind breaks open.

Because you see the architecture of your life shifting with every step you take toward your vision.

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The Ripple Effect: Why Success Is Never Just Yours

Take a breath and look at your page.
All these roles.
All these identities.

Now list of all the all the people being affected by your own success. Allow yourself to feel the greatness of your impact if you pursue what is in your heart.

When you evolve, everything connected to you evolves.

Your children receive a new future.
Your partner receives a new version of you.
Your clients receive a deeper transmission.
Your clients’ clients feel that transmission.
Your parents soften.
Your siblings shift.
Your neighbors benefit.
Your community expands.
Your lineage heals.
Your world changes.

This is why not pursuing your success is the selfish thing.

Because staying small doesn’t protect anyone.
Shrinking doesn’t make you humble.
Avoiding success doesn’t make you spiritual.
Hiding doesn’t make you safe.

It just limits every life connected to yours.

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Why This Matters

Most people believe they need to reach their vision before they can feel whole.

But that’s backwards.

You can only see your vision because you are already whole.

You don’t manifest from emptiness.
You manifest from recognition.

The vision is not the destination.
It is the memory.

You aren’t becoming the person who deserves success.

You are releasing everything that blocks you from remembering that you already are.

And that remembering doesn’t just change your life.
It changes every life connected to yours.

Your success is not selfish.
It is service, evolution… devotion to the world you love.

This exercise simply helps you see what has always been true.

If you take the time to do it, please share with me how you felt, I would love to hear from you.

With Love,

Carolina

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Happenings

Lately we’ve been in a season of pausing and reflecting on our own process. Not because things weren’t working, but because we could feel that the way we were operating was no longer able to hold the level of success wanting to come through. We needed to stop long enough to see clearly what was asking to be restructured so success could flow with more ease and more integrity.

This pause showed us something important:
success isn’t just about numbers or growth for the sake of growth.
Success, in our world, translates into empowering our clients more deeply, giving them better results, and contributing to the life we are intentionally creating for ourselves. And once we made the decision to change, we could immediately see how many more people would benefit from what we’re building. That alone felt like an incredible measure of success.

So we expanded our team.
We hired help.
And we’re genuinely excited to support more Sacred Business owners in 2026.

Something else became very clear: when you get to a point where your own way becomes the thing blocking your expansion, that’s the sign you need support. We hired

Filip Sardi 🌊

from Client Flow to help us rethink our entire customer experience — from the network, to Sacred Growth Club, to our private clients. His presence helped us see our process with new eyes.

And with that clarity came a deeper truth we had to face:
we needed to transform ourselves to allow the expansion life was inviting us into.

We realized we need new ways to empower our clients, new tools to support their growth, and a structure that could hold the next level of transformation. Internally, it required letting go of control, stepping into a deeper level of faith, letting slowing down feel safe, and saying no to things we would normally say yes to — which was uncomfortable and honestly scary at times.

But there is no expansion without transformation.
And every time you choose expansion, something old must be released.

This process has been stretching, refining, liberating — and so supported. And now, as we step into this new chapter, we can clearly see how our own evolution makes space for a larger ripple in the world.

Which brings us back to the exercise in the essay above:
the moment you choose your next level, every part of you rises with it — and so does everyone connected to you.

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What’s next?

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