Your Opinion Could Be Blocking What You Want
You’re not blocked, you’re just living by someone else’s definition
Before I decided to open my energy-healing practice, I had this opinion about working for myself: it’s just a lot of work!
If I don’t work, I don’t get paid. What about vacations? I’d find myself calculating—if I want to make this much money, I’d need to work that many hours.
But deeper than that, what I knew as “a practice” came from my very successful and respected psychologist mom.
I remember, as a kid, waiting for her to arrive around 9 p.m. every night.
She would eat lunch with us at home, then head right back to her office, after having worked in the morning. Even though she managed to be present for my brother and me, in my mind, she was always working.
I admired her—and still do—but back then, the opinion I formed about her work and what “having a private practice” meant was blocking me from even wanting one of my own.
I carried this light desire to have a business, but I was also comfortable where I was.
My goal wasn’t to create something that would give me less time with my family or to care for myself.
For quite some time, I never stopped to ask:
Is this true? Are all practices like that? Is the only way of having a business the way my mom had hers?
My opinion was so strong that I never questioned it.
I’d tell her, “I want to love what I do as much as you do—but I definitely don’t want to have all the patients you have or work all the hours you do.”
Pause with me for a moment.
We all hold opinions we once absorbed with emotion—like a child thinking, Mom doesn’t have enough time for me.
They live quietly inside us, shaping our choices, and we rarely revisit them.
What might that be for you?
Not long ago, I witnessed a client sharing her gifts in a conversation with Phil and me. She described all the magic she offers—but struggled to name it.
She was hiding behind a title because she believed people wanted that title.
They’d pay someone with that title.
So, playfully, we started offering her new ones.
Guess what?
She had strong opinions about many of them—because of what she’d seen others doing under those same names, things that didn’t feel aligned with her own integrity.
Our opinions feel like truth, but most are old emotional conclusions—stories we never revisited.
We forget that we have the power to define what we want and what things mean.
I can call myself a witch, but my definition of witch might be completely different from yours.
My own breakthrough moment came one afternoon at work.
I was sitting at my desk, staring at an Excel sheet full of numbers, listening to an Esther Hicks video on YouTube, when something clicked:
I didn’t need to recreate my mom’s practice.
My version could be whatever I decided it to be.
That realization brought such relief.
I felt my body exhale—the inner voice whispering, Oh wow… of course.
Space opened inside me that had long been tied up in the conflict between wanting a business and rejecting the model I grew up with.
That moment changed everything.
I knew I would eventually leave that job and venture into building my own practice.
It may sound simple—and it is—but when we can’t feel genuine desire for something because of an old opinion about it, our brain won’t look for new possibilities.
It can’t see doors it doesn’t believe exist.
Going deeper, your opinion about marketing might be blocking you from being seen by the people who need your work.
If your subconscious believes marketing threatens your values, it will find every reason to stay hidden—even though your heart longs to help.
My point is this: let things have meaning for you, and own it.
If you want to call yourself a witch, decide what that means to you—and the people meant for you will find you.
If you want to create an amazing marketing plan that attracts people knocking on your door, let marketing be awesome.
If you want a business that gives you time, freedom, travel, and space for your kids, you can build that, too.
We forget that it’s up to us to decide these things.
And it begins by questioning our own opinions and labels.
Is it really helpful to judge another woman who calls herself a witch if, deep down, you wish you could too?
Is it useful to hate marketing because there’s nonsense out there, or could you redefine it as something honest, loving, and true to you?
Do you have to charge by the hour and work 12-hour days to be successful—or could you design a structure that truly supports your life?
This is the real work of creation: remembering that meaning is sacred, and it belongs to you.
The words you choose, the way you serve, the hours you work…
all of it can become an expression of love when it’s born from your own definition.
That’s when your business stops being a job
and becomes a living prayer.
With Love,
Carolina
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