This Is Me Since 2019 Saying This Year Will Be My Year
Why we keep breaking our word with ourselves (and how to stop)
I saw a friend post a meme that made me sad. She shared it as a joke, but because it’s true, it’s not funny at all.
A famous actress on stage, beautiful and powerful, that energy of being ready to fly, and the caption said: “This is me since 2019 saying this year will be my year.”
I’ve watched this pattern for years now.
A potential client tells me he’s been “working on his business” for three years. When we investigate, there’s no business. There’s passion, knowledge, desire, fire… but there’s no business.
Another person in our community had her idea for years. Last year was the first year she actually created something.
What changed?
She has the same full-time job, the same family, the same busy life.
The only thing that changed was her relationship with commitment. She showed up every week to her vision.
We get on sales calls with people who are perfect fits. They resonate with the work.
They have the vision.
They say money isn’t an issue. And then they walk away.
Not because they can’t afford it. Not because the program isn’t right. They walk away because they’re terrified of what would happen if they actually committed this time.
They’re used to breaking their word with themselves. And now someone else would be watching.
Most business advice won’t say this out loud: your struggle to build your business isn’t about strategy, visibility, or market fit.
It’s about your relationship with commitment itself.
And until you transform that relationship, no amount of tactics will work.
We confuse commitment with declaring. We make vows to outcomes but don’t build relationships with the process. We expect the energy that ignites creation to be the same energy that sustains it, like expecting a sunset to last 24 hours.
The frustration you feel, the disappointment when another year passes and you’re still saying “this will be my year”, those aren’t signs that you lack discipline or motivation.
They’re signs you’ve outgrown your current reality and you’re ready for a different approach.
Commitment can be light. It can be fun. It’s actually a process of self-discovery if you allow it to be. In the end, when you commit to your desire, you're committing to your soul.
Not as a concept. As a daily practice.
But it requires something most spiritual entrepreneurs aren’t being taught: structure, capacity, and nervous system regulation.
Here’s how to build a relationship with commitment that actually works, and a framework you can start using today.