The idea of the vulnerability got my interest. The struggle is putting myself out there multiple times, with nothing to show and no interest in what I’ve been vulnerable about. It gets increasingly hard to try with each flop. All of these discussions start sounding like just more false promises and opportunities to feel bad.
Push through, there’s something on the other side. It doesn’t have to be now. Sometimes we have to retreat and heal before we can try again. Sometimes now is not the time, but the experience was worth it. We still learned even though we didn’t achieve what we set out to. Sometimes we are redirected. I certainly have been.
All of this resonates so much. Imposter syndrome was a big reason for feeling vulnerable. I thought I’d get “exposed” even though students and their parents loved the self-discovery training programs I made. Until now my students thank me for what helped them up to 8 years ago. It’s surreal. But this imposter syndrome goes deep. Even you inviting me to the community of entrepreneurs triggered that imposter syndrome. It made me feel uncomfortable. Like I don’t belong. Im a fake a fraud and I’ll be rejected. All childhood traumas, all capable to being healed if I lean into them, that is why they come up 🙏🏼
I want to add another layer to why we hate sales (let me know your thoughts): our perception of money. We think someone paying means “losing” money or “giving up” money and us taking is therefore depriving them of something even if they are getting something in exchange. Recently my perception of money has been changing a lot. Spending money isn’t a “bad” thing. We don’t always have to “save.” Spending puts money into other people’s hands. For example I bring an incredible woman to help clean my home. She’s from Bangladesh. The money I pay her gets sent to Bangladesh to her family who spend that money buying goods or services from Bengali businesses. People are benefiting. Money is going around. But even if I were to buy goods or services in the country I live in, people are benefiting. Then they’re spending the money. Other people are benefiting. Someone might come back and pay me. Then I’ll pay someone else. It’s so beautiful. We don’t “own” this money. It’s how we coexist in a community. Wealth moving between different hands. People living and experiencing and sharing things and experiences together. Same goes for charity and gifts. Share the love.
Carolina, Thanks for this honest reflection on Selling and how I resist it. Really helpful! Thank you!
The idea of the vulnerability got my interest. The struggle is putting myself out there multiple times, with nothing to show and no interest in what I’ve been vulnerable about. It gets increasingly hard to try with each flop. All of these discussions start sounding like just more false promises and opportunities to feel bad.
Push through, there’s something on the other side. It doesn’t have to be now. Sometimes we have to retreat and heal before we can try again. Sometimes now is not the time, but the experience was worth it. We still learned even though we didn’t achieve what we set out to. Sometimes we are redirected. I certainly have been.
All of this resonates so much. Imposter syndrome was a big reason for feeling vulnerable. I thought I’d get “exposed” even though students and their parents loved the self-discovery training programs I made. Until now my students thank me for what helped them up to 8 years ago. It’s surreal. But this imposter syndrome goes deep. Even you inviting me to the community of entrepreneurs triggered that imposter syndrome. It made me feel uncomfortable. Like I don’t belong. Im a fake a fraud and I’ll be rejected. All childhood traumas, all capable to being healed if I lean into them, that is why they come up 🙏🏼
I want to add another layer to why we hate sales (let me know your thoughts): our perception of money. We think someone paying means “losing” money or “giving up” money and us taking is therefore depriving them of something even if they are getting something in exchange. Recently my perception of money has been changing a lot. Spending money isn’t a “bad” thing. We don’t always have to “save.” Spending puts money into other people’s hands. For example I bring an incredible woman to help clean my home. She’s from Bangladesh. The money I pay her gets sent to Bangladesh to her family who spend that money buying goods or services from Bengali businesses. People are benefiting. Money is going around. But even if I were to buy goods or services in the country I live in, people are benefiting. Then they’re spending the money. Other people are benefiting. Someone might come back and pay me. Then I’ll pay someone else. It’s so beautiful. We don’t “own” this money. It’s how we coexist in a community. Wealth moving between different hands. People living and experiencing and sharing things and experiences together. Same goes for charity and gifts. Share the love.