“And in the name of everybody else’s peace, you never get what you want.” So good and so true. You end up with a life that doesn’t feel like your own because you are not honoring your own needs. This was a great read! Thank you!
Such an interesting human phenomenon. I'm glad you said no. I've notice what you metioned about our physiology is very true. In essence, it takes time, thought, effort to protect our own selves from our survival mechanisms. Don't put the necessary boundaries in place and we get overstimulated even further.
An adjacent thought: It took extra time and energy for you to say no. Some people are so exhausted and overstimulated - that it takes extra down time to re-regulate their physiology - before being able to say no - and then afterwards do they enjoy the boat trip further? Thankfully, it sounds like you were able to. But some others would either skip the effort out of "kindness" - others out of exhaustion - others don't even understand what is going on below the surface of what you lay out here.
It's like reaching a deadline that is important - and you don't even celebrate the win. Why? - Now that is worth unpacking!
Solid write up! Thank you for taking the time and effort to show up!
It's like reaching a deadline that is important - and you don't even celebrate the win. Why? - Now that is worth unpacking!
love this!! we are so wired to move from one thing to another that we don’t celebrate, we don’t feel, we say no when we wanted to say yes, if at least we could slow down… maybe 99% of our problems would be solved
I once wrote an essay called “Pretends Everything is Fine.” These small things, like saying yes to someone smoking, become big things. Catching the moment and choosing another path is everything. I loved this explanation of that process.
“And in the name of everybody else’s peace, you never get what you want.” So good and so true. You end up with a life that doesn’t feel like your own because you are not honoring your own needs. This was a great read! Thank you!
You are very welcome :)
Such an interesting human phenomenon. I'm glad you said no. I've notice what you metioned about our physiology is very true. In essence, it takes time, thought, effort to protect our own selves from our survival mechanisms. Don't put the necessary boundaries in place and we get overstimulated even further.
An adjacent thought: It took extra time and energy for you to say no. Some people are so exhausted and overstimulated - that it takes extra down time to re-regulate their physiology - before being able to say no - and then afterwards do they enjoy the boat trip further? Thankfully, it sounds like you were able to. But some others would either skip the effort out of "kindness" - others out of exhaustion - others don't even understand what is going on below the surface of what you lay out here.
It's like reaching a deadline that is important - and you don't even celebrate the win. Why? - Now that is worth unpacking!
Solid write up! Thank you for taking the time and effort to show up!
It's like reaching a deadline that is important - and you don't even celebrate the win. Why? - Now that is worth unpacking!
love this!! we are so wired to move from one thing to another that we don’t celebrate, we don’t feel, we say no when we wanted to say yes, if at least we could slow down… maybe 99% of our problems would be solved
I once wrote an essay called “Pretends Everything is Fine.” These small things, like saying yes to someone smoking, become big things. Catching the moment and choosing another path is everything. I loved this explanation of that process.